Work is the only best source of self-motivation

Someone recently asked me as to what to do when one doesn't have a person to motivate or any other source of motivation. Parents, teachers, cousins, relatives, friends and colleagues are the set of known people who enter the nearest circle of our life to motivate us. Their act is a direct one where they provide motivation to us. On the other hand, there is a passive way of motivating onself when we draw motivation by reading about great men and women who have taught the world the lessons of success. Drawing motivation by observing the hardworking ants, flying eagle, honest dog, big and strong elephants or the wonderful nature around us is also a passive way. However in both of these ways there is only a surge in motivation levels in us which may eventually lead to action but the action is still pending and not guaranteed. There is the third way which is apt and the best because it not only induces motivation but also makes sure that the motivation reaps immediate results and that is "WORK".

 

 

Whenever anyone tells me that s/he is not motivated, I just ask them one question, 'What are you doing?' and the instant reply is 'Nothing! because I am demotivated.' The clue is right over there. The moment we aren't doing anything, we are setting up our mind in idle state and all us know it well that, 'An idle mind is a devil's workshop'. While entering the modern age of the world the phrase has got reframed as, 'An idle mind is a devil's paradise'. Whenever there is no work on our mind, there is something else on our mind for sure because there cannot be vacuum in our mental space. As a result of this, enter the lethargic elements which pull down the focus on our work which eventually leads to lower self-esteem, in other words called as demotivation. Work is the only special way where in the moment we get into action, our motivation levels are bound to rise because the body is in action while the actual role of motivation is to lead us into action. So work forms that mutual path that brings in both self-motivation as well as the action required to take our life one step further. Let's work and the work shall work for us. It can be of much help to me if you provide your feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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What will others think about me?

"Sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log". This is a transliteration of a Hindi statement which means that the biggest disease is 'what will others say?". It inertly indicates the worry about what others will say about me. I had always thought that this was a very simple and well-known topic and hence not necessary for me to address. But I find that each one I come across is suffering from this disease and sometimes even I tend to forget this saying. The best reinforcement is by sharing.

 

Man is a social animal. As a result of all other homo-sapiens surrounding us we are answerable to lot of them for our words and actions. The worst part is when we need to even answer the strangers about things completely unrelated to them. So many people suffer from the pain of worrying as to what the other person might be thinking and saying about them. This worry doesn't have any logical reasoning because it is just made up in one's own mind by a mere assumption without any confirmation from the other person whether s/he actually is thinking about him/her in the way s/he imagined. The person is really not sure if the other person spoke the way s/he has imagined him/her to have spoken. We interpret gestures with different meanings at such worry times and reaffirm our nonsensical made-up thoughts to deepen the pain further. If it really mattered to both about what the other person thought or said about you, s/he will share it with you directly and the matter can be resolved. If the other person has not spoken to you directly about what s/he is thinking or saying about you then it's none of your business to worry about that.

 

"An idle mind is devil's workshop" was a previous slogan. Today's slogan is 'an idle mind is devil's paradise'. All these thoughts about other people come to our mind only when it is not generating thoughts about our work. So either there is a scarcity of work or goals. So the moment you think about what others will say or think about you, you can be sure that you have to once again revise and reinforce your goals. I hope you liked this blog. If so, pour in your valuable feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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A mere thought

I have seen many people complaining that how much ever they work all goes as a waste and they reap nothing out of it. Even you might have heard people claiming something like this ''No man, I just wasted my time doing all this stuff''. Friends! even garbage sells. Then how can your actions go a waste. Not just your actions even your words cannot go a waste. I can guarantee you that even a thought in our mind doesn't go a waste. God has planned this world perfectly well for us. What you sow is what you reap. The output of this world is clearly controlled by the input of thoughts, actions and words of the inhabitants habituating the planet.

I am very sure that by this time you are going back to all those recent thoughts, words and actions of yours. Hence now I would like to share the concept of waves and antennas in relation to human mind that I studied in one of the books that I read. Every human mind is a transceiver. Each one of them emits particular frequency of waves and can receive signals emitted by other brains. This is somewhat similar to the concept of telepathy wherein two or more individuals can communicate without the usage of any media except for their mind and concentration powers. So every thought of yours gets converted to a wave and emits into the surrounding universe. When similar thoughts are emitted by other antennas tuning to the same frequency of thought as generated by you the impact of the thought increases which makes the thought to convert into reality on ground. That is when you are astonished to witness that what you thought just came true.

So there is no point in neglecting any thought that comes to your mind because you never know the intensity of the thought generated by you. Hence make sure that you focus your mind on stuff that concern you the most with the utmost intensity so that lot of them turn into reality soon and beware of any ill thoughts that might just hamper your progress. Every thought is capable of churing around a tornado just like the butterfly effect. Your feedback is valuable on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Lack is Luck

Necessity is the mother of all inventions. This is an adage that has stood true till date and will remain true forever. Whenever the human mind has felt a lack of something that has always set a process of thoughts to run in order to solve the lacking. Today no one has to invent a pen because it already exists. When there was a need for a device that could be used to write on paper and which could be used again and again just by refilling, man invented the pen. Not just with invention of materialistic things, lack plays a very important role in the discovery of the self as well.

I remember one of the interviews of Shah Rukh Khan where he had mentioned that he was afraid of being poor and hence he worked very hard to become rich and famous. You would have read or heard many such similar stories where in some people would have felt a strong desire for having something in their childhood but due to the lack of resources they or their family couldn't afford what they wanted. This lacking fills in a very strong motivating factor in them to work towards earning what they wanted. In this process man learns the different difficult lessons of life. Life is like a game of different levels. More the levels we want to grow through, more the challenges and more the problems to be solved, more the lessons to be learned and skills to be developed. Only when a person feels a dire lacking of something that he needs or desires does he develop the spirit of working. Today's younger generation has been pampered with all that it asks for by the loving parents while the same parents are worrying as to why their kids are becoming lazy and obese day by day. When a kid is getting all that it wants without even working for it just by asking it's parents, why in the blue sky would it search for a reason to work? Some lessons of life have to be learned the hard way but seldom the blind love of parents allows them to realise this.

Motivation or inspiration can only be passed through words but the sources of these lies in the lack of basic and dreamed necessities of human mind. Harder you work, luckier you get. Harder the situation, harder you'll work. Hence I came up with this blog 'lack is luck'. At that time of lack, one might feel sad but that will be the trigger that will make one develop to the position that he/she will deserve what one lacked before. Eager to know your feedback on

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Calmness counts

Once Swami Vivekananda and his disciple were travelling by foot to a village. On the way they saw a river and Swami Vivekananda asked his disciple to get him some water for drinking. When his disciple went near the river, he saw that people were washing clothes, vessels and animals and some were taking bath in the same river. As a result the river water was very dirty and unfit for drinking. The disciple reported the same to Swami. Then both of them walked away from there and in the evening while returning back from the village they stopped at the same place near the river and once again Swami Vivekananda asked his disciple to get him some water for drinking. The disciple obeyed the order and saw to his surprise that the river water was very clean and clear and got it for his Swami. Then Swami Vivekananda asked his disciple as to what he had learnt from this experience. So the disciple was wondering as to how the dirty water of the morning had become clean drinking water within a matter of few hours. Then Swami explained to him that when sufficient time was allowed for the water to settle, all the dirt were separated away and clean water remained back. Likewise there is always lot of clutter of thoughts, feelings and tensions in our minds of which we cannot get rid off at once. So we need to allow sufficient time for the unclean thoughts to drain away so that the mind remains calm.

No doubt that in this busy world where responsibilities are pounding one upon the other racing the order of priorities in our lives, we are bound to be stressed with multiple work on our minds. Sometimes we even forget the importance of which work to be done first or which work later. There spring up instances when either fun or work fail to give the necessary excitement to life. Everything seems to be less interesting with a strange sense of dissatisfaction of lacking something in life that could spice up some joy. Then hundred percent commitment and passion do not get into any work. Visions and dreams start feeling less important in front of the temporary unhappiness at heart. Every human being is bound to go through such instances 'n' number of times in life. Just be ready for it friends! You cannot keep getting frustrated during all such instances. Allow time to pass by. Time will filter off the unnecessary thoughts and help you refocus on your goals once again and you can restart all over again with full zeal. Infact a conscious revision of your own goals, dreams and visions can hasten the process of coming out of this hibernation process. Just be calm enough to take care of the disturbed mind because calmness counts.

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Clarity, Definition, Transparency

When you are travelling along a highway to a far off distance its so important to have a clear idea of the path that you will traverse and also the transparency of the glass so that you can have a clear vision of the road ahead. Likewise in life its very important that we should be aware about how clear and well-defined our goals, dreams and visions are. If the driver doesn't know the exact destination and the exact path to reach the destination but only knows an approximation of where the destination is and a rough plan of road to reach the destination, even then the driver can find a route and reach the destination also but the extra time and energy spent in due course will be an extra expenditure. This extra can be small or big depending upon the lack of clarity and definition. However small it is, it is definitely going to cost the driver.

Everyone of us are sailing through the happenings of life day by day with some plan in mind. Some of them have just handed over the control to the circumstances around them and are under the misconception that fate will take care of them. I feel really sorry for such people. I would like to quote a very famous quote of Sri. Dhiru Bhai Ambani here which goes like this - "If you don't work to build your dreams, others will use you to build their's". Proabably this is the case with most of the people in today's world. That is why it is utmost essential for one to know the clear direction along which he/she wants to take his/her life in. Most of us have some plan or vision in our mind towards which we struggle day in and day out. But I want to stress upon the point about how clear and well-defined this goal is set in the mind. How clear are we about the path that will lead us to the dream in our minds? How transparent is the glass of imagination in our mind about our future? are some of the questions that I want my dear reader to think about and ponder over for an answer.

Let me make it very clear dear friends that we have a life of fixed time limit and we don't have eternal time to experiment and traverse every other path to reach our goal. Every extra minute spent and every extra thought invested on a disorganised plan is a second and a thought energy lost which could help us reach our goal earlier with an organised plan. A clearly defined vision and perfect structured plan of work can help us really save lots of time and mental energy and help us accomplish more and more. Start defining your goal and plan for future right now........

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A day to start with

As I start off my blogging in the morning itself today I feel that today is a bit different than other days. I am feeling sad on one side that I missed my gym today but on the other side I am atleast content that I have used the same time to write my blog. Seeing the positive side of anything is very important else you might just end up in the pit of guilt from which it is hard to come out. But as I just glance through the imagination as to what all I would be doing today it all seems covered up with lot of stuff. Very important for me would be to make sure that my priorities are addressed in the right order throughout the next sixteen hours. That's why I named this blog as 'a day to start with'.

Amidst so many work that is clogging our mind, we seldom get time to visualise something that will happen in future. Most of the times either we are busy contemplating what happened in the past and why it happened or our brain is completely busy in completing the present task at hand. Friends! just give ten minutes early morning even before you think that your day has started to just visualise as to how you want this day of yours to be. Just try to imagine yourself smiling all the day, making people feel good, completing lot of tasks without any tension and be lively and energetic all through the day. You can set the set of values that you will be following today no matter what happens. You might just decide to be helpful to anyone you find who is in need of help. You can easily plan the duration of time that will be required to complete any major work. More than that when the mind is free in the early morning and trying to search for a clear plan, all those tasks that seek your highest attention come on your mind immediately. Make sure that you're just putting all those thoughts into a neat To-Do list so that your mind doesn't have to worry as to what to do next when it is engulped in confusion. You can even list out the people with whom you would want to connect either through internet or phone or a personal meeting. Even that person will feel happy that you planned to sync up with him/her. Let's spread happiness folks!!!!!

The biggest advantage of this ten minutes of thought-process early morning before you start your day is that your day will get organised to the best perfection level. I can challenge you that most of the times we can't remember what have we done on most of the days. All of them seem similar rather same and there would be no special moments to remember a day barring a very few exceptions of occasions of celebrations. Why not strive to make everyday a memorable one only if you can plan in those early ten minutes of the day as to what you
would be doing today to make sure that this day remains in your memories forever!
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Listen to what you talk

Thanks to the Almighty who has blessed humans with wonderful sense organs and also has given the right usage to each one of them. Even animals have tongue but they can't use it to talk like us. Barring a few exceptions of people with special abilities most of us are lucky enough to have this wonderful ability to talk and communicate with ourselves and with others. We keep talking the whole day with our family, relatives, friends, colleagues and sometimes strangers as well. Sometimes we chatter even while sleeping and indeed its fun to watch those who do this. There is a famous saying that our thoughts become our words and our words become our actions. Probably its too difficult to control our thoughts but my question is can we control what we talk?

We chat about innumerable topics and gossips, we talk about cinema, politics, religions, opinions, sports and trillion of other topics. Most of the times our thoughts just get converted into words and flow out of our mouth. There is no check in between whether what we are talking is going to make some sense or not. Also our ears are not placed in front of our mouth, they are placed on either sides of it far from it. Seldom our ears actually listen to what we say. They are more inclined towards listening to what the others have to say. Even physically its tough to bring your ears near your mouth. I was just thinking, had it been the case somehow that our ears would have been the first to listen to whatever we spoke then this world would have been rid of half of the talk pollution that exists now. The ability to talk is called in Sanskrit as 'Waakchhakthi'. I probably couldn't write in sanskrit here. 'Waak' means to talk, 'shakthi' means power, both combine to give the word 'Waakchhakthi' which means the Power to Talk. In the autobiography of Mahatma Gandhiji, he explains how he used this power of talking so well that his silence and his words were both equally powerful enough to help him become powerful to lead huge masses. Even Rajnikanth explains that when you're silent, people wait to listen to you talking and when you talk they give their full concentration. Also the weightage to the words of a guy who speaks less is more than that for others who keep blabbering always. Use your power to talk wisely.

Feedback loop is one of the best ways to drive ourselves towards perfection. I suggest you to listen to what you talk. Pay complete attention to what you're saying, record it and play it again in your mind and try if you can find a better way of saying the same. This will not only improve your efficiency but will also fill the necessary power into your words. When you analyse what you want to speak, you will definitely convey more in less words. This will strengthen your mental ability as well. Silence has power, control yourself from blabbering unnecessary speeches because people characterize you by the way you speak. Don't allow yourself to become a chatterox, listen to yourself- what you talk to others and what you talk to yourself in your mind. Filter off the junk and produce the required right combination. Lets utilize Waakchhakthi - the power to talk in the best way possible.

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Frustration means Fluctuation

Everyone of us are ruled by these non-physical entities called as emotions. Our moods vary from time to time. No doubt that with great efforts and continuous training of the mind we can reach the level of being stable irrespective of the mood variations but this is not at all a simple task. Also not everyone will be able to achieve it. Even the best who were believed to have the highest control over their feelings had to surrender to the same at times. Lot of things result in the emotions that we emote. The surrounding circumstances, our perception towards situations, our very own health conditions etc culminate together to result in the emotions that at times take complete control over us and our decisions and hence actions.

In this particular blog I am taking up the topic of 'Frustration'. Probably everyone on this planet have gone through this state of mind. Might be sometimes even God gets frustrated watching the things that humans are doing. In general, people have an expectation set against the work they do, the treatment they get from peers and family and lots more. Whenever these expectations are not met there sets in frustration. The worst part of frustration is the resultant of it. When we get frustrated we make some of the most nonsense decisions possible which might later cause trouble not just to us but even others for which we regret later. Frustration sets in when our earlier logic is disproved. Human mind is very good in logically analysing what has happened than in forecasting what can happen. So when the mind sees that what it had planned to happen doesn't match with what has happened, it can't digest it and hence puts us into confusion because the mind can't accept that it's logic can go wrong. By the time the mind understands the situation the emotion that settles in us is frustration. We get into a dilemma about our own decisions. This is what I call as fluctuations. So frustration means fluctuation. So how do we resolve this?

When a mathematical problem is given to you to solve without sufficient data obviously you cannot find out one perfect solution for it. In the same way when mind doesn't have all the information it needs to analyse something it gets confused. This is what happens during frustration. Obviously its difficult to stop the frustration from getting in but it definitely is possible to ward it away soon enough. The moment you get a hint that your mind has too many random thoughts running and you can't take your next step immediately take a sheet of paper and start writing down whatever is running in your mind. This will be the best way to put down valid thoughts on paper and mind gets rid of unnecessary ones and starts focusing on writing. Thus you make the mind free from confusion. Once you have written down all possible information, think over about your goal and what might have missed to reach it because of which you got frustrated. Add that and setup the next action plan. The main part here is to bring back the mind from jittering condition to stable condition to think.

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