Every problem has a solution

Life is a wonderful journey for those who are ready to see it unfold and be prepared to receive the shocks and surprises that it might throw. For some, life becomes drudgery because what they expected and what life gifted them were in opposite poles. No one decides what one needs to get out of life. It's a culmination of lot of factors that moulds the life the way it unfolds. Things that we can have control on seem easier than those on which we don't have any control. Such uncontrollable circumstances take the name of problems. Every problem has a solution just like how every lock is made with a key. Problem is a problem until we discover the solution for it. The best part is- everyone has equal rights to discover the solution of any problem troubling this world.

Once a person is born on this earth, no matter how hard he tries, he cannot escape the clutches of the earthy life until his time to leave the world arrives. Until then he has to pass his time on this planet. When we have no option to escape life, let's enjoy life. There is no point in sitting and moaning about things happening around us. You have the rights to cherish the good moments of life. Likewise you have the responsibility to combat the sad moments of life. While good moments make your heart go light, the tough moments should make you tough to face the challenges of life. Nothing comes easy here; you have to earn it, my friend! For those who doubt whether they will be able to earn what they desire to, here is the simple single philosophy which can empower you to believe in everything that you wish should come true. Every problem has a solution; you just need to discover it. You cannot say which solution will, for sure, solve the problem but you can be sure that when you hit the right solution the problem shall vanish. To make it happen you need to have a firm belief on God and thyself. You have to believe in yourself that you are going to be the problem-solver. Only then will your mind open up to search for solutions. Mind is one of those wonderful creations of God fit in a human body that can solve the unimaginable mysteries of this beautiful planet. Use it well and believe in your efforts which shall go on to solve the problem. What you dream is your right and no one has the rights to snatch it away from you.

There are a lot of people out there who will create problems. There are a lot out there who will complain about problems. There are plenty of those who will only see the problems and run away from them accepting defeat. None of these three categories of people take any action to solve anything. The remaining is the fourth set of people like you and me who should become the torch-bearers for the rest of them around us. We should carry the light of solutions to all the problems that hit us. Not to forget the most important lesson during the tough times of life - "Every problem has a solution".

Prompt and instant

Recently, during a book-reading session with my friends, I came across a line which asked, 'How long is your response to stimulus?' The stimulus can be anything that's external or internal. How fast we are in answering the stimulus determines our speed of action. The world is delighted with prompt and instant replies and actions. The slightest delay that we do in our prompt responses results in sowing seed to a disease called procrastination.

 

The general perception of people about others is that people are lazy. Each one has his own set of problems which seem much bigger than that of others. Amidst the chaos that one is going through, it's generally tough to be alert all the times when there is an external calling. It might not just be the problems, even the to-do list of a person might be too long to cater to someone else's calls. Unfortunately, the outside world is completely unaware of the problems that we are entangled in or the tasks that we are entitled to fulfill our duties to. When opportunities knock our doors in the form of others, if we are not prompt in answering them, they move on to the next door without waiting for us. Hence problems or our work can never stand as a reason for not responding promptly to others' requests. On the other hand, if we are prompt in responding to an external request or call or an order, we are respected for our quick responses and opportunities shall follow later.

 

Prompt response does not mean that one has to leave all the tasks at hand and start answering the external request. If each one left their work to fulfill what others ask for, then not even a single work will be completed. Prompt response only means to answer the incoming query and providing a suitable action plan for the same. Once a prompt response is given and an action plan is stated and decided upon for a task, it enters the to-do list of the person and should be done as and when required. However, work will happen only when our responses are instant and prompt.

 

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Something for something

'Give all that you can but expect none from the others' is the slogan that people advise the disturbed souls. For the universe to be balanced, they say that for every particle there is an anti-particle. So if one person is giving away something to the other, definitely there shall be an imbalance because the giver receives nothing as per the general perception. However, the world doesn't survive if there is such an imbalance. Hence we jump into the theory of, 'for every something that is given there is always something taken as well'.

 

Let's take a few examples and prove this hypothetical theory. If someone gives another person some amount of money then he receives back a promise that he shall repay the amount. May be the give and take doesn't happen in equivalent form of an object but definitely in equivalent forms of feelings. The guy receiving the money is happy and the guy lending the money is happy because he knows that he will get back his money with extra interest added to it. In a class, when a teacher is teaching, she is passing on her knowledge to the students in exchange for their attention. The teacher gets attention for her teaching while the students get education for their attention. In above two examples, if the receiver would be absent i.e., either the students or the loan receiver then there would be no scope for the lender or the teacher to exist to perform their roles just like how if all planets cease to exist, the sun would have no reason to burn. So there is always a trade of something for something in this universe.

 

If we accept the theory of this barter that there is always that's got for something that's lost or given away, a lot of problems and worries in our life can be reduced. If a thief steals away your money, it only means that he gave back the lesson of safety to you. If a friend cheated your trust, he only gave back an experience to trust a friend carefully in future. In every possible situation, your assets remain the same. Only that, with every occurring transaction the form of your assets keeps changing. When you know that you receive something for every something that you lend out, then why worry? You can just be happy always. You can throw in your comments here.

I know I'm shattered but I also know that God is with me always

God lashes out every trouble at a person to only make him/her stronger. Here's a story of a young girl from garden city, Bangalore, who was underestimated by her close acquaintances for 20 years of her life but found her true purpose of life and started enjoying the spirit of unlimited inspiration in her life. Today, she has been responsible for making more than 35 people including children and adults literate within a span of just 5 months.
 
Kavya Madhavan is a student from Adarsh College pursuing her graduation in B.Com during the day and working part-time during the afternoon in the same institution. She is a highly sensitive person who gets emotional with just a sight of apathy of any person around her. After realizing through a number of incidents that crying alone doesn’t solve anyone’s problems she took up a dream to jump into action to give her bit to solve the problems of others. She recognized that lack of education was the root cause of all evil and hence decided to teach the under-privileged kids in her free time for one hour every day after she finishes her work and on the way to her home.
 
Here are her answers to our questions;
 
1. How did you start this campaign of educating poor children who aren’t allowed to go to school?

A. On 28^th of October, I was washing vessels during which I was thinking as to what I was doing in life. I used to get emotional at every scene of trouble of others but I was helpless as I could do nothing about it. I read a lot of books of Swami Vivekananda, who advocates that work shouldn’t be in words but in action. That’s when I decided that that day I would go out and teach any poor kid whom I found on the road. I asked the suggestion of Sujit Lalwani sir if my idea was correct and he gave me a green signal to go ahead with the project. That is when my life started to change.
 
2. How was your initial phase and experience when you started your initiative?

A. I got ready and left my home. I boarded a bus wherein I saw a beggar boy. I felt really sad for him and then approached him. He started asking me for food. I shared my lunch box with him and asked him to stay back at the same place where we both got down so that I could come back in the evening and teach him. Sadly, when I returned the boy wasn’t there. I felt that I had failed in my life but didn’t want to give up.
 
Next day, I once again went in search of poor kids who couldn’t afford their education on the roads of Chamrajpet but couldn’t find anyone. God was testing my patience while I was crying in desperation. Third day, God had to open his eyes to help me. Finally, I found around 5 kids near a construction area who were the children of the mason workers. I asked them if they would learn how to read and write if I taught them. The answered yes! And that’s how my journey began.
 
3. How many people have you taught till now and how has been your experience?

A. I have taught around 20+ kids to write their names in English, English alphabets both capital and small letters ­­and numbers from 1 to 100. Even adults were influenced to learn while I was teaching those young kids. So I have taught around 15 adults to write their names in English and basics of English language.
 
The experience has been totally satisfying. I now feel that I am living my life to the fullest. There are so many small faces that await my arrival in the evening just to learn. I feel so empowered while I am empowering someone else’s life through education. In spite of all the difficulties in my life, I feel every moment that the Almighty is right beside me and supporting me.
 
4. Were there any incidents during the process which made you sad?

A. Definitely, Yes! On a number of occasions I was disappointed and had lost hope. Thanks to IU (Inspiration Unlimited) who inspired me to carry forward my work. My parents were absolutely not supportive of my work as it included meeting strange people and teaching them. I had to make sure that initially I had to work without informing them. Couple of times, those students whom I had taught had gone back to their villages and didn’t return to Bengaluru. I was broken and felt that all my efforts had gone a waste but when I learnt from those who had returned that they had taught English to their friends and relatives in their village I was jumping with joy.
 
5. Which was the most striking incident during this whole process?

A. I used to teach a group of kids who lived near a construction site. There were 4 girls and a boy. Every day they used to come running to me as soon as I reached their place to teach them. On one fine day, it was strange for me to see that the boy who was always enthusiastic to learn was running away as soon as I reached their place. I was disappointed and felt bad thinking that he had lost interest in learning. I was into tears almost. However, I started teaching the rest of them. After sometime the boy returned and said that he also wanted to join the class. I was angry at him and scolded him. Immediately came the reply from him that he couldn’t come to learn as his pant was torn. I couldn’t control myself. I started crying. This was one of the most striking incidents of my journey.

Pin your hopes strongly

Troubles or problems seem to exist in this world at their own wish and will. They neither care about people nor animals. They pound their feet wherever they see that there is the minutest possibility of living. They do not care whether you are poor or rich, Christian or Muslim or Hindu, healthy or wealthy, optimistic or pessimistic or anything for that matter. If you are thinking that you can run away from these, you are definitely wrong because they are omnipresent. All that can help you is your hope for survival.

When I say 'survival' I don't mean only the survival of your life alone. I mean the survival of your desires and dreams. Most of us are afraid of problems though we optimistically call them as challenges. In fact the wondering fact is that we are more afraid of problems that shall occur in future rather than those that are currently eating away our peace into pieces. Friends! problems are the part and parcel of life and they shall play their part as designed. Unfortunately some people who have perceived their problems as the hardest ones go on to expect the same kind of life even further. Law of attraction works and they get it. In due process they start sacrificing their dreams of luxuries one by one and at the end of life blame that they could never enjoy the best of life as they were fighting the worst of life. It was a choice to choose between fighting the worst and getting the best. At such instances of making the right choice just make sure that you pin your hopes strongly.

Hope is probably the only reason that we get into sound sleep at night. Problems shall occur irrespective of you living or just surviving your life. Don't just be bogged down by thinking about them all the time. Sometimes you will have to take steps for a better life in spite of knowing that the problems shall arise. All the problems shall get managed. So keep the worry at bay by just making sure that you have pinned your hopes strongly. You can pin back your feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Back-up of EXPERIENCE

Experience is something that we build as time progress with our age. As all of us know, everything has a limit. So does experience. New challenges and problems keep coming as we move ahead in life. There are some problems that repeat and there are some that are new. The first time we face any particular problem we are unaware as to how to solve it and also we don’t have a prior experience of having faced it. This makes the situation even more challenging. That is where comes into the picture of a back-up called as EXPERIENCE.

I am calling this experience as back-up because this is a experience which we haven’t  got on our backs but it lies as a back-up in someone else’s kitty. It so happened that in last few days I was on bad health for sometime. I knew what medicine would suit my body at such situations of cough and cold and I used to apply them before to resolve the matter. This time the cough took a serious form and started severe trouble. None of my earlier methods worked, even the doctor’s consultation couldn’t make any impact. That is where the back-up of experience came as my saviour in the form of my dad’s experience. He suggested me few medications which I implemented immediately and saved myself a lot of trouble. This was possible because I came across a new problem for which I had no experience or learning to solve but could take the help of my father’s experience  to resolve the same. When you don’t have the experience just buy it from the one who has it is the lesson that I learnt from this experience of using else’s experience to build my own experience.

No doubt that it is impossible for a single person to go through all the hardships to learn all the solutions for all the problems in life. Different people go through different problems and build different experiences. One doesn’t have to spend all his time to undergo different experiences. Just buy the experiences of others when you haven’t had them and use them wherever and whenever necessary. In this regard, one of the strongest methods that I would like to suggest is to read autobiographies and biographies of great people which comprise of a variety of important experiences.

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Keep trying but differently

"Try and try again till you succeed" is one of our childhood lessons of life. No wonder that we need to reinforce this lesson time and again in ourselves to solve many problems. I remember of the mythological stories that I used to hear in my childhood wherein there would be fights between mythological heroes and the asuras, I mean the villians. Mythology involves magical powers as all of us know. So these asuras used to have magical powers due to which killing them would be very difficult. Then our hero used to try different weapons (astras) and different mantras to kill the enemy. Finally the hero would return victorious killing the asura.

Similarly we face different challenges and problems in our day to day life. Be it health issues or financial crisis or problems on the professional front etc. Everywhere solution can be found only by trying to solve the problem. The same old medicine prescribed last time for the same health disorder doesn't work anymore and you have to find out an alternative medicine to better the health. The same old deal doesn't solve the same new business problem. So you need to chalk out one more better deal to resolve the issue. Ultimately there is no other solution other than trying out different methods because problem needs to be solved however simple or complex it is. Many give up in these trials because they get frustrated trying out the same methods again and again in vain. Most of them don't think of alternate methods but just try sticking to the conventional solutions which work no more in resolving the modern age problems. One gets bored of trying out the same solution many a times and gives up. Hence I recommend to keep trying until you solve the problem but make sure that you try differently each time the earlier trial fails.

In doing so, there is innovation all the time to discover a new solution and also the motivation and hope do not go down easily as we keep trying something new. Life is a maze set by God to solve. Whether you try solving it or just keep quiet, it doesn't matter to life. Life keeps adding challeneges one upon the other for you to resolve only to help evolution take a faster progress. Everyday I try to chart out some or the other new thought in my blogs to kill my own stagnancy of mindset. Hope to see your reviews on the same on is.mohanbn@gmail.com
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Unsettle the settled

Have you played the zig-zaw puzzle ever? Have you solved the rubik's cube? What did you feel when you saw the unsolved zig-zaw puzzle or the randomly arranged rubik's cube? Obviously if you're one who is interested in these you would have felt the urge inside yourself to try solving them. How would you feel after solving them? You would definitely feel happy to have solved them for few momemts after you solved them but later you will start losing the excitement that you had while solving. This is because there is no more challenge to your capability and there's nothing to solve, the problem itself ceases to exist. If there is no excitement in life then how would you feel living that boring life? This is not just limited to solving a zig-zaw puzzle or a rubik's cube or some maze, this is the crux of life.

Most of them are in the pursuit of settling their lives as soon as possible. Infact we are coached right from our childhood to achieve the same. The meaning of a settled life in today's world is to have a constant flow of income, constant hours of working, constant day-to-day work with a weekly off to complete personal work. Is this all life about? Did mankind evolve through series of civilizations only to live like a machine at the end of 21st century? People are under the false assumption that once life gets settled as said above you can live a happy life. How can one even accept this fact when one is being so monotonous with no adventure or excitement doing the same stuff in and out of the day? Friends! there is nothing called as a settled life for one who wants to explore life. Its only those who don't dare to put their strengths and skills to test and remain complacent with what's available think for a settled life. For those of you who are strong-minded to achieve and accomplish mighty dreams in life, settling is the last option that you can even think of. The moment you start feeling that you're doing the same work without any new innovation in it and start getting bored just switch on the light to take a leap. This is what I mean by unsettle the settled. Even in the age-old civilizations, those who settled down where good soil and water were available created small tribes but those who travelled and explored more of the world became the immortal names in the world history. The choice is yours to choose the life that you want.

Its a misconception that life gets settled once you start having a constant flow of income staying at one single place. New challenges and problems keep bouncing to challenge our settledness. People who don't modulate themselves for these new obstacles obviously get unsettled in this stream. So its upto us whether we wait for the problems to unsettle our lives or we move towards them because problems exist by default. Remember that you cannot construct storeys upon storeys with the same foundation, you have to break down the existing bungalow to construct the new monument.

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2nd lesson for freshers

Long back I had written a blog which had some of the guidelines to the freshers who enter offices to start their official career. Hence I call the current blog that you are reading as the 2nd lesson for freshers. In this blog I would like to share some personal experiences of mine and the lessons that I learnt out of them. I am very much sure that everyone of you will come across these scenarii and I hope that this blog will serve you as the torch in the unawareness of darkness.

Any kind of technical work is always logical in its approach. Hence there is no special miracle to understand or do any kind of technical work. Most of us in our work would be doing this. There are hardly few careers such as marketing or public relations wherein one deals with people and not technology. There are complete set of different lessons for this field which I will convey in another blog. As of now lets take up the technical profession where we work with computers and machines. You might have studied completely a different subject than what you will be working in your office. So be ready to accept this new sphere of learning. Every basic logical block has already been embedded in our brains. How well we assmeble them to understand the complex logic at job is in our heads not hands. When something is new no wonder that we are filled with questions and doubts and the immediate answers we see are the seniors filled with experience and we approach them instantly for our solutions. No doubt they also help initially but later it just gets distrubing for them as well. I was a prey to one such bad experience. Just make sure that you give your extra time to understand the problem at hand even before going to the seniors. Tell yourself that you are going to learn everything without taking anyone's help. The best friend who will always help you in this phase will be GOOGLE. Search for anything and everything and gather information. Explore and learn the answers for your own questions and doubts.

Every problem either has a solution or no solution. If it has a solution I am damn sure you can crack it with the help from internet. If there's no solution then make sure that you have tried out as many approaches as possible to find the solution but in vain. But these efforts don't go a waste. They serve as the R&D work of finding out the different methods that cannot yield the solution to your problem. Learn the process well and practise good documentation. Both of these will build your reputation in the team.

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The 1 degree difference

Have you played golf? If not have you seen people playing golf? The golf ball is a hard white one which is kept on the ground and the player hits it hard with his golf bat. The ball travels through the air to reach the target hole. In this process if you can trace the path of the ball you can have an arc. When the same shot is repeated by the player if the ball rises at a different angle from the last trial, you can clearly have another arc traced in the air. Just imagine that this difference in the angle between first and second trials can completely change the destinations that the ball reaches. Probably if you have played angry birds you can find this difference but I took the example of golf here because it travels a lot of distance. Our life also is a long journey in itself.

When we are having a destination or a goal in our mind and we work towards it, it is obvious that we come across a lot of challenges and problems. No doubt that we have to deal with each one of them and reach our destination. But are we really travelling towards the destination that we want to reach? If the golf player was an ace player he would have hit the ball keeping the target in the mind. On the other hand if he was an amateur he would have just striked the ball and the ball would have found its destination. Something similar happens with most of us. We are unaware about the clarity of our goals and are just going through life. As a result of this amateurish behaviour we end up reaching wrong destinations or I can say that we don't end up accomplishing our goals. If one can be clearly aware of the goal of his/her life then he/she can take up everyday of life and prioritize only that path which would lead him/her to the target that's set in the mind. We know that when the goal is different the problems that come are also different. So just by choosing the right goal that we intend to reach we can clearly select the problems that we need to face.

When the golf player plays his strikes a difference of just 1 degree can completely change the targets that the ball reaches. In the same way our small difference in action can completely change the goals that we reach in our lives. How well we can define and describe our goals determines the course of action that we will take. Beware and recheck your goals once again else you might be ending up in the wrong place just because of a one degree difference.

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The Right Time

Knowledge is in abundance around us. Lessons are in million numbers. Theories and agendas are running pages together in books lying in the libraries. Immemse wisdom circulates through the brains of highly intellectual people whom we are surrounded with. Stories of rags to riches and solutions for all problems in the world are printed and picturised in movies. Yet not even a single person on this earth knows every lesson of life or every solution to a problem. The reason is not just because the information world is vast. The reason is also that the discovery of a solution happens only when the person faces the problem.

'Necessity is the mother of all inventions'. This quote is so famous that even a school going child knows this. The reason for every invention that has happened was the necessity of it that demanded the invention to happen. Bringing this concept at the individualistic level, everyone of us learn new lessons and find solutions to problems only when we require it. It all happens at the right time. Sometimes we feel that we know the answers for certain questions posed by life but later we realise how cliched our answers were when we really face these questions in life. Very few among us actually put an effort to learn solutions even before the problem occurs. Most of us search for solutions only when the problem occurs. Probably this is the law of nature as the first statement of this paragraph says. I am not inclined towards whether you find the solution before or at the time of the problem because I believe in either case solution works only when the problem occurs. Therefore I am fine as long as you find the solution.

Its always necessary as human beings that we grow in our wisdom and intellect day by day. But we know that this growth happens only when we start learning new lessons and solutions to new problems. New questions and problems arise only when you start venturing into new activities and new information. Hence I would recommend my dear reader to expand your horizons of learning and increase your areas of interest so that you get a chance to learn as much as possible and also exercise your skills in every direction because we know that the learning will happen at the right time when you encounter the situation that demands.
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STUDENT

During the student life its possible to engender whatever one wants to in his field of interest. All the students have got the ability to enhance their performance with time. It is just that one needs to realize this. Though the juvenile age is ephemeral, a person remains a student forever in life. Equanimity is one of the distinct qualities of a student that can help him in difficult tasks. A good student should never try to equivocate his mistakes but must be open to constructive criticism. Erudition cannot be achieved without hardwork. Some of the esoteric concepts cannot be understood unless there is complete dedication. There are many instances that can exacerbate the calmness of the situation.

 

A student must be ready to face all these situations in life. If ever he is blamed by mistake he should be capable of exculpating himself from the situation. He should be ready for all kinds of exigency and face them with boldness. The extrapolation of the student life is nothing but the job one takes up. A student life should also be filled with fun for which a facetious freind like me will be very useful. Our parents try to facilitate us with the best they can give for all our experiments in life. A student should be grateful to his parents than giving fallacious reasons for his failures in his tasks. It would be fatuous of a student to underestimate his teachers. A student should not try to fawn someone just because he can get something done by the other person. He should be felicitous in whatever he says which will reflect the fervor in his talk else his words will flag off in the ambient noise.

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