Questions and Answers

The world would have been completely silent and calm if we hadn't had the fortune of speaking to each other. I am damn sure that, my dear reader, you are able to hear my voice in your head right now. You might be just reading what I have written here, but definitely there is a voice running deep down in your brain which is not audible to the outside world but, for sure loud enough for your head. Communication forms the intricate part of establishing a bond in any relation. It involves just exchange of opinions. Whenever no discussions are happening, then it only means that there are a lot of questions building up in our minds. All you need to do at such points of time is to throw the questions and get the answers. If you are on the other end of the table as a leader then pull out the questions and give the right answers. Questions and answers have the power to calm down all highs and lows of our feelings and emotions.

People would have been more than happy if everyone around them did exactly as they expected each one of them to do. Unfortunately, what happens in a human's brain seldom reaches the people around. As a result, exchange of ideas, thoughts and feelings in terms of words are very essential. Sometimes, or should I say, a lot of times not all the points made satisfy a person's appetite for information or confirmation of the information received. At such times, there are always possibilities of confusions, distrust, emotional conflicts and a whole lot of other silly issues to creep up. The assumptions that build due to too much of gap in communication also submerge the truth and the reality and build a mountain of unnecessary heap on top of the objectives, due to which the complete essence of the objectives is forgotten. The arguments and disagreements arise. Losers give up fighting on such issues to resolve them either due to ego or laziness. But a leader must take the stand. He must be ready to put down his ego, crush it and take the first step to make the person in front of him sit, and help in solve the queries bothering the relation. Heaps of irrelevant and irrational questions need to be answered until the true objective surfaces itself. Every human being is at least blessed with the ability to realise the importance of lost objectives, and when made realised to be ready to relearn them. Some souls get their ego as a defence just to win the argument rather than the true discussion or the objectives. Once again you need to question and get the answer or answer the same old question until the ego is satisfied.

The biggest role of a leader comes to picture here. A leader must be ready to dig into the mountain of doubts and uncertainties that people carry in them, due to which, neither they proceed in life, nor allow someone else to move ahead in life. A leader's job is to make people answer the questions and thus form a channel for them to leak out all their negativity so that positivity can be filled into them. The process is not as easy as it can be spoken about or written or read. It's a tough job of a leader and only a leader can take up such tough challenges and solve them to make the world a better place to live in for people around him.

QUESTIONS for life

 

What is the goal of life?

What is the purpose of life?

Martin Luther king Jr. says "A man who won't die for something is not fit to live". So what is that you are ready to die for?

Do you need to have big dreams?

Will you be able to achieve all your dreams?

What all do you need to be happy?

Which is important? Your parents' dreams or your dreams?

What is that which you have missed all your childhood which you would want to get when you become an adult?

Who is the most important person of your life?

Do you feel you wasted lot of time in your childhood?

How much money do you wish to earn in next 10 years?

How much money do you think that you will earn in next 10 years?

What do you value the most? Health, money, family or yourself?

What do you do when you know that you havent kept up your commitment?

How do you feel when you get slapped by your principal in front of the entire class for no mistake of yours?

What is the most important thing that you need to focus in life?

What to do when people dont respect you while you are advising for their own development?

What is the feeling when your closest friend stops picking your call and doesnt even tell you that reason?

There are mentors to teach acting, speaking, dancing, bodybuilding, studying. Who is your mentor for living?

Do you think you are making the best use of time?

When you see Sachin making his 100th century, Salman Khan's movie Dabangg2's satellite rights being sold for 82 crores, Rahul Gandhi getting the entire Congress back up to become the PM of India what do you feel about all your achievements till date?

What do you think that you dint get earlier in your life which if you had got you would be a celebrity today?

Someone is happy being just a coolie, someone is happy being a monthly20k earner, someone is happy by constructing businesses, someone is happy sleeping and eating and enjoying all day, someone is happy going and coming back from office. What are the measures of success for these people.

Does success have a single meaning?

What all materialistic pleasures that you would want to acquire in life?

Can you be happy and content being alone or do you need people along with you?

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What? Why? How?

The three simple question words that rule our life every moment are 'What', 'Why' and 'How'. Everyone who is born on this earth has to die one or the other day. There is this small span of time that we live on this earth between our birth and death which we call as life. One of the famous statements running around all social networking sites today is 'stop existing, start living because life is once'. What is the difference between living and existing in a life? Probably when you take control of what's happening in your life it's called living and when your surroundings direct the path of your living it's called existing is what I interpret the earlier statement as.

 

What?
What are the dreams that you have dreamt so far? What is that you want out of life? If you can answer these two simple questions 33.33% of your life is solved. Unfortunately in today's world people are not even clear as to what they want. Without knowing what they want, they are sad that they are not getting what they want. Clarity of definition of goals, dreams, desires and visions is the first step of life. Many try to skip this step and hence end up failing and falling because the steps of life are not simple steps of concrete that you can jump over. Each and every step of life is there for a reason which cannot be skipped or jumped over. If you can clearly ask and answer yourself as to all that that you want and write them down, it will be the best help that you can serve yourself.

Why?The degree of motivation behind any work depends on the degree of happiness and satisfaction that the result of the work can bring you. Only when you are clear with what you will be getting out of working for something will you work towards it strongly. So the second very important question is 'Why you want what you want?' If you can chart out all the real reasons behind your necessity or desire and draft them against every item on your 'what-I-want-list', then this will perfectly answer the strength of WHY behind every WANT of yours which will solve next 33.33% of your life. Stronger the Why, better are the chances of accomplishing because better will be the prospects of one working towards achieving.

How?
This is the only question that no one needs to answer to other or to the self. Probably this is the only question that gets answered automatically in the process of answering the first two questions What and Why. For everything in this world there is a particular set of algorithmic steps that take us towards completing the task to get the reward. This process gets known in the process of research and search for answers to the first two questions. Also the answer to How is always specific and never generic which will complete hundred percent of your life.

 

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2nd lesson for freshers

Long back I had written a blog which had some of the guidelines to the freshers who enter offices to start their official career. Hence I call the current blog that you are reading as the 2nd lesson for freshers. In this blog I would like to share some personal experiences of mine and the lessons that I learnt out of them. I am very much sure that everyone of you will come across these scenarii and I hope that this blog will serve you as the torch in the unawareness of darkness.

Any kind of technical work is always logical in its approach. Hence there is no special miracle to understand or do any kind of technical work. Most of us in our work would be doing this. There are hardly few careers such as marketing or public relations wherein one deals with people and not technology. There are complete set of different lessons for this field which I will convey in another blog. As of now lets take up the technical profession where we work with computers and machines. You might have studied completely a different subject than what you will be working in your office. So be ready to accept this new sphere of learning. Every basic logical block has already been embedded in our brains. How well we assmeble them to understand the complex logic at job is in our heads not hands. When something is new no wonder that we are filled with questions and doubts and the immediate answers we see are the seniors filled with experience and we approach them instantly for our solutions. No doubt they also help initially but later it just gets distrubing for them as well. I was a prey to one such bad experience. Just make sure that you give your extra time to understand the problem at hand even before going to the seniors. Tell yourself that you are going to learn everything without taking anyone's help. The best friend who will always help you in this phase will be GOOGLE. Search for anything and everything and gather information. Explore and learn the answers for your own questions and doubts.

Every problem either has a solution or no solution. If it has a solution I am damn sure you can crack it with the help from internet. If there's no solution then make sure that you have tried out as many approaches as possible to find the solution but in vain. But these efforts don't go a waste. They serve as the R&D work of finding out the different methods that cannot yield the solution to your problem. Learn the process well and practise good documentation. Both of these will build your reputation in the team.

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Answers to my questions

Everyone of us have lot of questions about life and the world around us. We seldom dare to ask anyone these questions most of the times because we ourselves are not quite sure about our questions. All of us are flowing in the current set ages ago. Certain patterns, certain customs are just imposed upon us and we don't dare to question any. Also there are few subjects that we want to learn about but we aren't sure about whom to ask those questions. Even I was swimming in this ocean of questions and doubts about living and the way of living and am still conitnuing but in due process I was fortunate enough to have some really high-level discussions with highly wise people and was able to get few answers for my questions. As Robin Sharma says 'When the student is ready, the teacher appears', the same happened with me. I will be on one such fortunate trip again by tomorrow night where I'll be getting lot of confusions and questions cleared by my mentor but before that I would like to share with you some of the answers that satisfied my questions.

Q. Why is it necessary to have dreams to buy vehicles, ornaments and houses?

A. We can work only for a limited age. As we get old we won't have enough strength to work and earn income. So we need to build sources that can yield income in our old days. Renting a house can help us serving as a source of income in the later stages of life.

Q. What is a vision and who is a visionary?

A. A vision encompasses for masses. For example: there might be just one new coffee shop started by a person but if he is a visionary he will have a vision to have thousands of coffee shops all over the world. A visionary will always think and plan of expanding anything that has started so that it can serve large masses of people.

Q. What is spirituality and how can one become spiritual?

A. Spirituality is all about how much you can understand yourself. It's about how you can empathize with anyone around you. You would have reached the highest state of spirituality when you can enjoy in the joy of others and when you can feel the sadness to the same extent as that of the victim.

Q. Though people have big dreams in the beginning, why do they give up but do not persist on achieving them?

A. People want results quickly. They get disheartened when their expectations are not met with the real results after their initial efforts. They are not satisfied with the way dream comes into reality. They aren't ready to accept that they need to work for a long time to achieve big goals and when the result happens in a much smaller size they give up without continuing to build upon it to make it bigger.

Q. What is the level of purity of thoughts?

A. A pure thought can be as pure as a rain drop. Still the rain that rains through the impure polluted environment gets polluted and can result in acid rain causing lot of harm to the animalkind but just think about those rain drops that fall over a greenery or a forest or on top of the mountians. Its the purest form of water and that is the level of purity that should be associated with our thoughts.

I have represented very few discussions in the above scenarios. I still have lot of questions for which I am searching for answers. Even if you have questions like these please forward them to me. If I can answer them I will try my best to provide the best answer else I will make sure to find the answers to them. Life is all about exploring and sharing and we don't have lot of lifetime to learn everything ourselves. Hence take the help of mentors and wise people to learn the answers soon and to grow through life faster.

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