It's easy to give up

Everyone of us have big dreams, big goals and big visions. Each one of us want to work towards these with the best abilities possible. On the way we definitely come across a lot of obstacles. We are even strong to fight against these but however sometimes it so happens that in spite of the external obstacles we have our own internal obstacles that drag us back. Depressing emotions due to slow speed

of our growth or lack of care around us or inability of doing things that we like and getting entitled only to responsibilities are in or the other way responsible for the internal drag. At all these times it's very easy to give up.

 

The only achievement after giving up on the task that we had determined to perform is that we get sufficient extra time to do the next tasks and nothing else. This extra time got also shall not be utilised properly because of sthe lack of motivation to complete the previous work would still carry it's inertial effects due to which even the next task shall get either delayed or undone. Giving up actually leads to losing of the battle within our innerselves. It brings down the respect that we have for our own decisions and commitments towards ourselves. If one cannot be committed to oneself for one's own benefits how can s/he be able to deliver promptly to the commitments made to others? However, all these thoughts do not occur to the human mind when the body and the lethargic self have taken control over the human mind and giving up seems to be easier than far and pushes one to give up easily.

 

It just follows the general rule of the world. Success seems to ask for extra hard work whilst failure is as easy as just giving up. Even if you fail after doing the complete work to the best of your capabilities then you only fail w.r.t your expectations and not the real work. You have just fallen, you need to once again rise up and start working towards your success using the lessons learnt from the previous fall. Failure is as easy as just giving up. You can write back to me on

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Furor of frustration

Happiness is the main goal of life for everyone be it rich or poor. People have difficulties of their own at their own levels. Sometimes there is so much of confusion amidst the well defined clarity. People closest to you fail to understand your feelings sometimes. Other times you yourself are tied up by the principles you start following and cannot come out of them nor express your discomfort. At such times occurs furor of frustration.

 

The worst part about frustration is that one tries to first come out of it before doing anything else. The only way to come out of frustration is by throwing it out of you. Until then there is sadness that cannot be soothed very easily. The zeal just gets sucked out and it's a strange confusion between boring work or demotivated feelings. One more dangerous part with frustration is that the more it is compressed within without being vent out, the more it keeps compounding. At the end of the day time passes away and even the individual is helpless to do anything about it than controlling his frustration from harming anyone else or hurting anyone else's feelings and just talk to oneself continuously until the mind is calmed down and ready to think about further work. Work takes a beating for sure at such times. At such times I just suggest you not to punish yourself for anything. We set certain principles against which we cannot go due to certain influences and at times we aren't able to live up to the same. It doesn't indicate one's own failure or question the integrity of the principle. It just requires some time for you to get accustomed to those hard principles which you might not believe but are enforced upon you which can bring about a good impact in your growth.

 

It's true that we must avoid negative feelings but alas! we are humans, just normal humans who are not sages who have sacrificed everything in this world and just meditating and performing penances for salvation. There are certain commitments upon our shoulders to be fulfilled that may not be our passions. At times negative feelings are bound to occur. Just make sure that they don't have negative impact on anyone else and give sufficient amount of time to oneself to heal from them and once again breathe a fresh life. Really looking forward to your thoughts on this blog on

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Don't complain if you can't change it

Oftentimes not all things that are happening around and with us are always right as per our expectations. Be it with our studies or work or business or even relationships with our colleagues or classmates or family. Whenever expectations of people are not met, they start complaining or whenever things are bit easier for others than that for them, people start complaining about those. Complaining will eat away only your mental energy and time. Instead of complaining, use the same to change the situation as per your needs if you can.

 

One who can set things as per his ambitions shall strive hard and hence will be able to set some things as per his will and wish. The same is not possible by everyone because not everyone is motivated enough towards working for the kind of life that they desire to have. Let's look at a very simple example. I am sure that you would have found people complaining about how far their office or college is from their homes. They just feel jealous of all those who live nearby the office or college. Whatever wrong happens they start blaming on the distance factor and the lot of time getting wasted in travel. It's the decision of the company owner or the owner of the institution to place the office or college as per his comfort w.r.t not only distance but even business and financial factors. If you are dependent on the office or college for your work or studies better go through the travel and not complain when you have no strength to build a business of yours which you can run in your own home or can study on your own without any college support.

 

If you want to really live a life as per your own comfort, better create such a life as well by yourself. You can never expect that all things shall be made as per your expectations everywhere. People create things for their own comfort and as per their requirements and not for someone else. If you still find certain stuff created by others that can make you feel happy just be grateful to such people. You can definitely not complain but may comment about this blog on

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Just execute it

Thoughts on our mind keep running all the time. Everytime there is something wrong happening, the right thing to have been done springs up in our mind. Everytime we feel something is not up to the mark, automatically the best way to execute comes to our mind. Our mind is always ready to give ideas to make things easier for us but what do we do? We plainly disrespect those noble thoughts and move on. We fail at the initial step of starting the execution itself.

 

Most of the times we underestimate our own capacity and feel that execution of what we just thought is far from our ability to implement. There are some cases when we feel that the idea is not practically implementable while in some we feel that we don't have the necessary resources to execute our thought into action. There are certain occasions when we fear to start executing because we feel that we might end up in negative consequences. Other times we just plainly let go off the thoughts without even putting an effort to write them down so that we can avoid further thinking about the same. I am very sure that you are able to recollect few of those occasions when you let go off your thoughts and ideas without even executing them due to any of the above reasons or any other reason of your own. There is a very simple solution to this problem. Without execution anyways you are not learning anything, better start executing the idea. Either you will complete the execution and reward your brain else at least you will learn as to why the idea can't be practically implemented. In either case you always have a winning edge of learning something new and upgrading your knowledge.

 

Many of us have these constraints of time and work pressure due to which we are unable to execute many ideas. At least on such occasions make it a point to note down those ideas which you feel are worthy executing. If not now sometime later you will have a chance to execute your ideas. Remember that your ideas come to you only because they belong to you. Do pour in the thought running in your mind about this blog in a written feedback on

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Competition generates concentration

Once again one of the phenomenal concepts poured out during an interesting discussion today with my mentor. Lot of people have this question in mind as to how can they develop concentration. Some suggest to do deep breathing while some others suggest to keep oneself completely away from all disturbances and distractions and work. There are 'n' number of other ways too suggested by some others. Instead of seeing at different methods as to how to develop concentration, let's go directly to the roots of exactly when do we have the highest amount of concentration.

 

The simple answer is during competitions. I am sure that everyone shall agree with this because only competitions are those ocassions that test our abilities in comparison to the rest. Here I am not including anything regarding spirituality and meditation as I am talking only about how to develop concentration which is a major problem among students.Probably some might feel that they have the highest concentration while playing some games or watching a movie. While playing games, I do agree because it's once again a competition against the computer but I disagree with watching a movie because I can challenge that none of us can remember all the scenes and dialogues of a movie exactly after just the first watch. If the movie is a really interesting one the phase during which our mind is distracted is very limited and we feel as if we had concentrated the entire three hours.

 

Only during competitions does the mind is fully aware that if it doesn't focus all its attention towards the work at hand, it shall lose the competition and suffer the consequences. The competition forces the mind to concentrate during the complete stretch of time because only who concentrates the most and the best gets the right moves and right answers and eventually shall win the competition. A human mind doesn't want to lose a challenge thrown open to all equally. Hence competition gives an adequate and equal chance to all those who participate. You can share your opinions on

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What will others think about me?

"Sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log". This is a transliteration of a Hindi statement which means that the biggest disease is 'what will others say?". It inertly indicates the worry about what others will say about me. I had always thought that this was a very simple and well-known topic and hence not necessary for me to address. But I find that each one I come across is suffering from this disease and sometimes even I tend to forget this saying. The best reinforcement is by sharing.

 

Man is a social animal. As a result of all other homo-sapiens surrounding us we are answerable to lot of them for our words and actions. The worst part is when we need to even answer the strangers about things completely unrelated to them. So many people suffer from the pain of worrying as to what the other person might be thinking and saying about them. This worry doesn't have any logical reasoning because it is just made up in one's own mind by a mere assumption without any confirmation from the other person whether s/he actually is thinking about him/her in the way s/he imagined. The person is really not sure if the other person spoke the way s/he has imagined him/her to have spoken. We interpret gestures with different meanings at such worry times and reaffirm our nonsensical made-up thoughts to deepen the pain further. If it really mattered to both about what the other person thought or said about you, s/he will share it with you directly and the matter can be resolved. If the other person has not spoken to you directly about what s/he is thinking or saying about you then it's none of your business to worry about that.

 

"An idle mind is devil's workshop" was a previous slogan. Today's slogan is 'an idle mind is devil's paradise'. All these thoughts about other people come to our mind only when it is not generating thoughts about our work. So either there is a scarcity of work or goals. So the moment you think about what others will say or think about you, you can be sure that you have to once again revise and reinforce your goals. I hope you liked this blog. If so, pour in your valuable feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Negotiation - VIP

Negotiation is a very important power that needs to be present in every person who is willing towards becoming an entrepreneur. It's an art that simultaneously gets tested and developed during run time always. A simple phone call of negotiation can save good amount of money, time, energy and help you in the most crucial times is what I have learnt and experienced. Thanks to the best pair of brothers who taught me a sample of this amazing skill right at the required moment and hence this blog is dedicated to the Lalwani brothers.

 

Many a times it happens with us that we shy away from negotiating with people. While there is a different expectation in our mind, we fail to express it in front of others either because of fear of rejection or feeling of what will the other person think about me. It becomes a prestige issue to disagree to what the other person says. Sometimes we tend to feel that if we negotiate about what we want exactly the other person might feel we are either too stingy or might throw negative comments. All these are just feelings which are just instantaneous, all of which will subside as soon as the discussion is over and what remains is what both the parties have agreed upon and if we have agreed to those terms that are not beneficial to us we end up on the losing side of not the discussion but our money, time and energy.

 

It can't happen all the time that we agree to whatever the other party has to say w.r.t their norms and rules and end up accepting all of them at the cost of our resources. So it becomes highly important to learn and practise the art of negotiation by which we bring up our concerns and make the other party alter and adjust their conditions such that both the parties benefit. Obviously there stays a feeling in us as to why should we invest that much amount of time in negotiating, rather we can go ahead and finish off the process soon but this feeling is only during the initial times. This fades away soon as we start interacting with more number of people and negotiate more and bigger deals. The world is not fair to give you exactly what you want exactly the way you want it. So negotiating becomes a very important and an essential art and skill to develop for all those who wish to make big things happen and I feel entrepreneurs and businessmen can never survive in their fields without sharpening their skill of negotiation.

Once again, a big thanks to Sumit Lalwani sir and Sujit Lalwani sir for sharing and teaching this amazing art. Keep blessing and keep sharing more lessons of life sir. Friends! do post in your experiences of negotiation on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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