Can you weigh the feelings?

When you feel happy you tend to feel very happy and that everything is right but on the other hand when things are going haywire, you tend to feel really sad. Can you weigh these feelings of happiness or sadness and cancel them out and say your life is at neutral position? At least in the Harry Potter series, they could take out their memories and put them into a bowl. Is it possible to drag out our feelings and place them in a bowl too, to measure their metrics? Well! I am not sure. But we still use phrases like, 'my heart is heavy with feelings'.

 

To just dig into the background processing of how these feelings are created, we find that feelings are internally generated but externally triggered. People and situations around us give rise to different sorts of feelings. Though it's not exactly possible to weigh the amount of these feelings directly, we can try an alternative route to do the same by measuring the quantity that gets replaced by such feelings. Whenever we are down and feeling bad the negative thoughts revolve in our minds which replace the thoughts of any kind of work. As a result, majority of the work gets stalled. The amount of work can easily be measured in terms of the growth it would have brought to us either in monetary terms or kind-wise. The amount of time our brain is devoid of work thoughts and filled with feelings that obstruct the working thought-process, is the exact amount of time lost which can be exactly measured and if you can charge yourself on an hourly basis, you can calculate the loss in terms of finances as well.

 

After a series of disturbing experiences all that I realized was that if there are CEOs who are unhappy with what's going on in their lives, even I can reach some good position like them even if I'm hurt and feeling bad or sad or unhappy at certain points of time. It's difficult to fight against the feelings and work, I agree, but there is no way out. Work has to happen and life has to move on. There is no point worrying and sitting down with hands tied. Allow the heart to be under turmoil while you're exercising your brain to carry forward the work because more the lack and loss of work, more the sadness.

Furor of frustration

Happiness is the main goal of life for everyone be it rich or poor. People have difficulties of their own at their own levels. Sometimes there is so much of confusion amidst the well defined clarity. People closest to you fail to understand your feelings sometimes. Other times you yourself are tied up by the principles you start following and cannot come out of them nor express your discomfort. At such times occurs furor of frustration.

 

The worst part about frustration is that one tries to first come out of it before doing anything else. The only way to come out of frustration is by throwing it out of you. Until then there is sadness that cannot be soothed very easily. The zeal just gets sucked out and it's a strange confusion between boring work or demotivated feelings. One more dangerous part with frustration is that the more it is compressed within without being vent out, the more it keeps compounding. At the end of the day time passes away and even the individual is helpless to do anything about it than controlling his frustration from harming anyone else or hurting anyone else's feelings and just talk to oneself continuously until the mind is calmed down and ready to think about further work. Work takes a beating for sure at such times. At such times I just suggest you not to punish yourself for anything. We set certain principles against which we cannot go due to certain influences and at times we aren't able to live up to the same. It doesn't indicate one's own failure or question the integrity of the principle. It just requires some time for you to get accustomed to those hard principles which you might not believe but are enforced upon you which can bring about a good impact in your growth.

 

It's true that we must avoid negative feelings but alas! we are humans, just normal humans who are not sages who have sacrificed everything in this world and just meditating and performing penances for salvation. There are certain commitments upon our shoulders to be fulfilled that may not be our passions. At times negative feelings are bound to occur. Just make sure that they don't have negative impact on anyone else and give sufficient amount of time to oneself to heal from them and once again breathe a fresh life. Really looking forward to your thoughts on this blog on

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