The tuition fever

"Today education has become business." This is one of the most common quotes that I keep consistently hearing from most of the parents. They are bowled over by the amount that gets spent on their children's education. They don't even have an option of not doing it. If they don't spend, the children don't get the required education. Peer pressure has made students demand more out of their parents and, unfortunately, parents are made to yield for the same. While we accept that the normal school education is essential from an authorized body, what about those tutorials which re-teach the same lessons? How are students fighting the tuition fever? Let's discuss more on this.

I have been to tuitions for my under-graduation. Until my tenth grade I used to find that tuition was just waste of time. Post my under-graduation I felt the same as well. But it had become quite crucial for me during the under-graduation time. As I observe the present generation juggling between too many classes it just makes me wonder if they are opting the right decisions. What is tuition? It's a place similar to a class atmosphere where one goes to learn his subjects. Who goes to tutorials? Students who are unable to cope up with the classroom education provided at school/college go to tuitions. This was the earlier definition. Today, students go to tutorials because there are no good and capable teachers available in school/college because the good ones have opened tutorials rather than working for a meagre monthly salary in institutions. With more and more tutorials opening people's mindsets also have got tuned towards tuitions, both that of parents and students (needless to say). Education is not about marks until you enter your competitive exams. It's about understanding the world around. Textbooks have been comprehensively prepared to make sure that students are able understand in the simplest manner. All it takes is good amount of patience and hard work to invest time on reading them. Since students are unable to input these two voluntarily a force is required to enforce the same. That is where tuitions have come into picture and the students have caught the tuition fever.

Today's generation plays with smartphones in its primary standards. In fact, there is no tuition to teach how to use a smartphone. Still kids are able to do it because of the curiosity. It means that kids are able to understand the automated guiding machines like phones, comprehend the instructions and use them. The same needs to be applied to text books. This requires commitment towards studies by the student. He must be ready to read until he understands and practise until he remembers. If the student is able to do this then there is no requirement of tuitions. Time investment coupled with serious commitment is the perfect medication for the tuitions fever which is affecting not the just the child but the parents too.

Don't bore to the core

None of us intentionally want to get bored nor be a boring person. We want to live an interesting life and gain other people's interest in us as well. The simple rule is to give what you want to get. So if you don't want to get bored then make sure that you are not boring someone else. So how do we not bore is the core of this blog. Courtesy the experiences my team has had and suggestions made by our team leader, this blog shall solve your PR problems. {PR -people relations}

 

When does a person get bored? When s/he faces things repeatedly in the same old fashion. Eg: students are bored of lectures, employees of bored of working, wives are bored of cooking, teachers are bored of teaching. When does a person not get bored? When s/he faces something new which the person is willing to know and learn. I hope you have got your answers. If not, read further. Let's focus on not what we want to not get bored but on what we can deliver to not bore others. Whenever you are meeting the same person again, make sure you have a new information to convey. If you are meeting someone who wants to learn from you, make sure that you have something new and of next level than what s/he knows already to teach. If it's your client, make sure you have a new project or a product that the client can enjoy having and experiencing.

Know that for providing new everytime you will also have to undergo lot of research on what the person likes/dislikes and search for new things. Correct? Completely wrong. If you are a person who wants to keep yourself continually happy and excited and don't want to get bored then you will automatically learn and know new things and become an interesting person who neither get bored nor bores others. If I haven't bored you with this blog, then feel free to pour in your feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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The primetime focus

We have to agree that there are innumerable distractions around us to drag us away from what we are supposed to do. Even more threatening fact is that not all distractions are bad, some are good as well, some are even better than what we are currently working on. Steve Jobs stated this perfectly - "People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully".

Even I have to confess that I lost my focus a bit from my daily blogging habit because of the 'n' number of other urgent things that needed immediate attention. But needless to say that I'm BACK. Sometimes you just miss your track only to discover it back with more clarity. So choose carefully as to what are those which you chose to focus on to complete and divert all your energy to that first. Where focus goes, energy flows and idea grows. Even if you have missed focus from those which you committed for then don't dump yourself in worry on discovering this flaw. Just get back your primetime focus back on it. The primetime means the time dedicated for the prime interest which occupies the highest position in your priority list. So bring in your focus back in the primetime to cover for all the backlogs of your commitment. The best part is that the focus shall expand to occupy each second of your primetime.

We are living in a world where we are entitled to perform a lot of roles and a wide range of activities. Amidst all these we should not lose focus from our primetime activity that builds us. Even if you lose by any chance just back to it with complete rhythm using the concept of primetime focus where in you convert all your time available to primetime to focus on the work that you had left unfinished.

 

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Not interested but compulsory

I have met a lot of people who say that they are not interested in doing certain things but are forced by their parents, relatives or society to do the same. Especially coming to students, some of them don't like to study. Some employees don't like to do the work and follow the rules of the company. Lack of interest coupled with forced implementation is just lengthening the gap between the work and the people. I am damn sure that each of us are committed to something that we have no interest to do. So how do we deal with this?

Let's accept that the world doesn't run on our words. There is a structure that has been established by many civilizations through decades of decades where all of us have landed up in. I haven't heard of any person who has proclaimed that he is very interested and passionate about brushing his teeth and taking bath everyday. Still we do these 2 activities no matter how difficult or boring they are. {I really pity those people who surround the specimens who don't perform even these 2 basic essentials}. Coming back to the point of interest in the work that we do, let me not inhibit from claiming that not every work is interesting. It's upto the person who is entrusted with the work to perform the work with complete interest in it. When certain work is compulsory and you can't escape from it then it's good to do it. Even more better is to generate and vest some interest in it and doing it.

If you like sweets you can't keep eating them daily because very soon you will get bored of it. There should be other spicy and sour food that you must taste in between so that you completely rejoice the sweet once again. Same case with the work. Complete the work that's compulsory and once you have done it you will be filled with double the interest to work on your passion. Completion of any form of work is what that gives the ultimate satisfaction to human life. I have completed my work of blogging, can you complete your work of writing a feedback how much ever disinterested you are about that on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Daily decision

So many of us make resolutions for every new year and often we fail in following many of them. Longtime commitment is something hard to commit to for most of us. We definitely try our best to follow the resolutions taken but sometimes our memory limit lacks the ability to remind our resolutions to ourselves. At such rare occasions we fall prey to desires and distractions and break the vow taken. Whether you steal once or hundred times you are still called the thief. Hence once we break the resolutions we don't mind breaking it 'n' number of times which drains away the meaning of resolution itself.

Since I am into the field of bodybuilding and health fitness, strict diet, disciplined workout and regular routines are some of the things I need to be really specific about for rewarding results. I have observed most of them very excited on the first day of joining the gym and the excitement most of the times doesn't last more than a week. Infact with myself, I have had the experience of yielding to junk food and missing workouts due to laziness many a times. I used to take a commitment for 3 months to follow strict diet and regular workout but due to some or the other reason I was never able to follow it hundred percent. This continued for almost four months since I had started. Then I adopted a new method of breaking up commitment on a daily basis. One day is good enough for us to remember the decision that we would have taken in the morning till night. Early morning I used to take simple decisions as I would workout completely for 90 minutes today and I would restrain from eating any oily or sugary food only on that day. This was something very easy to follow because the mind had no constraint for the next day. So it allowed me free of distractions. Next day once again I would make the same decision only for one day and it would work perfectly fine.

I started applying the same principle for other interests of mine. For example just writing one blog a day is a routine decision that I make in subconscious everyday. You can decide on whatever you want to improve and make one decision per day and follow it perfectly. The short term commitment is something which is very easy to fulfil and also it doesn't get out of our minds very easily. I make some new decisions on different days and enjoy following each one of them. Hope this helps you too. Do share your opinions and feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com
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Slightly hatke

A very slight minute change in the normal routine can just surprise the human mind in such a way that it can almost take away a day long thinking time of a person. Just yesterday it so happened that one of my very best friends sent me a mail with nothing written except for the subject and that too the subject was a question about my phone. As I didn't know that it was a blank mail, the moment I saw the mail from her with this subject I opened it and was scrolling up and down to search for the content in the mail. After good amount of scanning I realised that there was no content at all in the mail. This kept me wondering! I was thinking all day as to 'why did she ask this question?', 'why was this question sent in a mail?' and that too 'why was this question put in the subject itself without having any content?'. I was trying to figure out all day the reason behind this mail. If it was just for an information she could have asked me over a message or a phone call or a ping on chat but why did she send such a no-content-only-subject mail? was running in mind all day long for which I couldn't find an answer. After much thinking I gave up to reason out myself and asked her directly. Then I found out that she just needed an information about it and as I was offline at that time she just sent out a mail as she used to in her office for short mails which didn't require explanation but just the subject was enough. It was as simple as this.

That is when it flashed to my mind that how a simple change in style of asking for an information could attract so much of my mental energy and thinking time. This is what I call as 'slightly hatke'. Just think about it pals, we are often bored of doing the same old things that we do everyday in the same old fashioned way. Everything that follows a certain pattern starts getting boring after sometime. Even if its not getting boring atleast the surprise element is lost in that activity. People will seldom recognise you when you're doing the same activity as they think you do. You won't be able to attract one's attention unless there is some different style attached to the same work of yours. Forget attracting others' attention, we ourselves start losing interest when the work gets monotonous and there's nothing new or different style associated with it. Probably this is the main reason today why students are losing interest in studies, employees are losing interest in their jobs, players are losing interest in their sports and so on and so forth. Talking about sports the IPL was a big hit just because it was slightly hatke from the normal form of cricket. It was shorter than the one-dayers. It had the concept of super over in case of a tie. It had dance for fours and sixes. Though the same cricket players played the same cricket with the same international rules, few additions here and there and the slightly hatke style of aggresive cricketing caught the interest of all the people.

So the moral of this experience for me is to be slightly hatke in style whenever you are doing the same old fashioned work. Try out something new which can spice up your everyday routine. Try adding a cinematic dialogue in your conversations for sometime. When you start feeling bored about that after sometime try out some shayaris in between your conversations. Keep innovating. I gave an example of conversation because I am an ace converser. I converse with everyone I meet, even if its just for two minutes in an elevator, an elevator pitch you see! Keep sharing your feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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The birth of Talent

It has been a question on mind right from childhood as to why different people have different talents and varied skill levels in those respective talents. Everyone of us are born as babies emptyhanded. A poet is not born with a pen in his hand, a cricketer is not born with a bat in his hand, a painter is not born with a brush in his hand, a singer is not born with a mike in her hand. Still we see that some excel in sports, some in arts, some in science. I keep wondering sometimes as to how a child develops a talent of his/her own in the process of growing. Today while I was teaching my younger brother about painting, probably I saw the birth of the talent of painting in him which I want to share in this blog of mine.

As everyone of us know that be it any talent, no one is a master of it right at the beginning. Only he becomes a master of the talent who works as a slave of his persistent interest and commiment to the talent. At the beginning stage, any person develops an interest towards a talent due to various reasons. May be an inspiration from a role model in the same field or a chance to try out the talent accidentally or a force by parents or teachers to work on the talent for the sake of grades. Whatever the reason might be the amateur gets in touch with the talent. The talent is not born even at that time. It is just getting ready to take a part of life of the amateur. The moment the fresher to the talent starts enjoying the refreshening feeling that the talent generates in his heart is the time the talent is born. The talent is born inside the man himself. The young boy matures into a man to safeguard and develop this talent of his. This scenario is quite similar to the situation wherein a gorgeous girl impresses the teenage boy and the wink of her eyelashes blossoms the love in the heart of the lover. As this love fills the life of the lover so does the talent starts to encompass the artist.

Thus the talent starts evolving with every practice in the mind and body of the human. More the interest, more the passion, more the commitment, more the practice, more the talent growth happens just like how a child grows into a beautiful lady with great care and nourishment. Every man gets a chance to try out his hand at different talents but he chooses to give birth to which he is attracted more. Perhaps only God can explain the reason for this attraction and why different people are attracted towards different talents. I just feel its similar to how different people are attracted towards different people of the opposite gender. At the end of the day all that counts is how well one takes care of the talent that is born inside. I request my dear reader to recognise the talent that is born within and nourish it well to present it as a gift to this world.

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Thanks Anthony Robbins for the lesson, Thanks God for the slap

 A small introduction of Anthony Robbins from wikipedia. Anthony "Tony" Robbins(born February 29,1960) is an American self-help author and motivational speaker. He became well known through his informercials and self-help books, Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement and Awaken The Giant Within. Robbins writeS about subjects such as health and energy, overcoming fears, persuasive communication and enhancing relationships. Robbins began his career learning from many different motivational speakers and promoted seminars for his personal mentor, Jim Rohn. He is deeply influenced by neuro-linguistic programming and a variety of philosophies.

In one of the books of Anthony Robbins where he explains about how he became a motivational speaker he says that when he had joined an organization for speakers everyone who had enrolled there used to give two speeches a week but Tony Robbins used to give two speeches a day because he had a very clear goal of becoming a SPEAKER. So he used to do it the maximum number of times possible and he teaches that if you are wanting to be a professional in something you need to do it everyday and not just on a weekend. Even Robin Sharma endorses the same idea in his book 'The Greatness Guide'. Thanks to both these masters. They had passed on a lesson which they had learnt, to me theoretically. Today I learnt the same lesson practically. Today I was given an opportunity to address a gathering of 40 people for an inspirational talk. After speaking for about 20-30 minutes I faced one of the tightest slaps I have ever got on my speaking ability. I just felt that I had misearbly failed to keep up to the standard of an inspirational speaker that I aimed to be. The sole reason for this was I was practising the profession of a speaker for few minutes once a fortnight or sometimes once a month. I had concluded on my own that based on my job timings this is the best that I could give for my speaking career. Folks! you don't achieve what you want by just giving your best, you achieve it by giving what is required to achieve it. This was one more solid slap on my ignorance of the lessons of the experienced. Though one of my friends said "Awesome" after I spoke I clearly could read the audience feedback. At that time I felt that you should never ask your friends for feedback. They are too good to say the truth straight on your face because they care for you and can't see you feeling hurt. When the live feedback is from the audience in front of you, you need not ask anyone else.

Friends, please don't make the mistake that I have made. You don't become a painter by painting on your weekend or a singer by just singing a song on a sunday. If you are eyeing any of the professional career based on your interest better implement that interest everyday into action. If I can extend it further implement it every moment. A businessman who is involved in his business every second of the day only makes profits not anyone who opens the store once a week. Its very simple - if you're a student you need to study everyday, if you're a chef you need to cook everyday, if you're person in job you need to work everyday to get paid excepting holidays. I still am into brainstorming on how I'll implement my speaking practice everyday. Hope you start your preparation soon enough to avoid any slaps later.

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