Sallu bhai tujhe salaam

It used to be those times during childhood when I used to watch a lot of movies only in my regional language. Bollywood was a word which was unknown to me. As I grew up, I started getting glimpses of the bollywood stars. One of them was Salman Khan who was very much known for his fantastic physique. Being the most glamourous male star of the film industry, all his movies had a shirtless scene of his with many girls running around him in majority of them. I thought him as just a playboy in movies who didn't know any acting and hence hated him because I felt he was casting a negative influence.

 

I was too amature at that time to decide about all these. For many years I was a anti-Salman fan and would prefer to watch Shah Rukh Khan or Aamir Khan movies because I felt they had more talent stuff than Salman to showcase in their movies. It was only in the recent past of about one and half year back when I enrolled into a gym could I appreciate the niche that Salman Khan had carved for himself in the movie industry. All that I could see on the foreground was Salman's shirtless acts which never impressed me. But when I got into bodybuilding and started understanding the discipline and dedication that it requires to have a body like Salman Khan, I had huge amount of respect soar for him. I felt really guilty of not being able to spot the hardwork behind his shirtless acts. That is when I said, "Sallu bhai tujhe salaam".

 

Many a times in our lives we always jump into conclusions just by seeing what's right in front of our eyes. Not all of us go one step forward to understand the background work that resulted in the scenario that we are witnessing. In this ample gap of ignorance or negligence we end up failing in understanding people and situations. I learned the lesson of not judging people by what is showcased to our eyes and decided to think about what goes on behind the scenes. Please feel free to share your views on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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"IT" is LIFE...!

Let's see what the author has to say this time with the quote "It Hurts... It Kills... It Teaches... It Thrills... "IT" Is LIFE...!" To remind all my new readers, this quote has been taken from the book 'Life Simplified!' by Sujit Lalwani who is a star international speaker and an entrepreneur. He has come up with his first book which claims to simplify lives of many. In this particular quote, he speaks about 'Life' which each one of us are going through.

 

Life is the only school that provides various kinds of experiences and knowledge that are necessary to succeed in our life. Not just with providing the necessary essentials, it also poses challenging tests time and again to examine our potential. The higher you grow in life, the higher the level of difficulty of the circumstances around us. There are many instances in life during which we almost go to the extent of hating life because it hurts us so much at those exact instants of time. Coming to the point of killing, life definitely cannot kill us, it just makes us feel the pain what one feels when one is killed. The reason 'it hurts' and 'it kills' have been given first is because only through such emotions when we travel and get out do we understand what life wanted to teach us. That's why the next phrase is 'It teaches'. After we have learned the lessons of life, definitely we rejoice all those tough moments and enjoy the thrill of the roller-coaster ride of life and hence the phrase 'it thrills'.

 

At the end of the day, it's just that one single life that becomes a teacher in iteslf to empower us. Hence the last phrase says that life is the only entity that can make you go through all the different types of emotions that a human being can go through. There is no point blaming life at any point of time because life was never meant to be easy, it was always meant to be made interesting, says Sujit Lalwani. Please feel free to share your views on is.mohanbn@gmail.com
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Instinct to conclude

All of us want to be experts in analysing everything and everyone. More than the want, most of us have already fallen into the pit of assumption that we can comprehend any person or any situation with the wisdom and experience that we possess. Unfortunately this is the reason why we jump into quick conclusions and far from perfect decisions that hamper our further progress. You might have observed that as experience and knowledge grow in a person, s/he becomes more descriptive about anything and keeps enough number of ways open before concluding about anything or anyone or any situation.

 

The instinct to conclude and finish quickly is also a sign of sense of urgency but this cannot be applied to those entities which are not under our control. Our work is under our control and hence sense of urgency can be applied but when it comes to making decisions when someone else is also involved in the project along with us, it's a blunder on our part if we jump into instinctive decisions that can have negative repercussions later. You might have observed that a baby touches the fire instantly the first time it notices fire which is an instinctive decision by the baby due to lack of experience with fear or lack of knowledge about fear while you will for surely find an aged adult taking sufficient time to jump into any type of decision even when the entire country is in crisis so that s/he gives the right decision after analysing and evaluating every aspect of effect of his/her decision. Wisdom grows only after sufficient knowledge is applied in practical scenarios increasing our experience.

 

I have always had this instinctive habit to finalise things quickly and immediately so that I can move over to the next task and I feel no shame in confessing that I have ended up on the losing side by taking such instinctive and incorrect decisions. I have always regretted after committing such mistakes since I couldn't revert the situations late. However I have learned my lessons, have you? Please let me know on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Let Go and Let's Go

Two words form two different phrases with just an extra apostrophe and a 's' and the meaning of both the phrases are exactly contrary to one another. English language gives this power to play with words and the author of this quote has just used it to the perfect extent. This is a quote from the book 'Life Simplified!' written by Sujit Lalwani who is a worldwide reknowned inspirational speaker cum entrepreneur. As I was going through this book, this particular quote struck me and I wanted to bring out the deep meaning of this quote into light to all my dear readers and hence am blogging about it.

 

In life, we desire for, crave for, ask for so many things in spite of knowing that we might not be able to have all of them. The instinctive desire to own what we like is born along with us and this basic instinct stays with a human being until death. It's the brain that decides whether to go for what we desire for or just not yield to the emotions of the impulsive heart. The author mentions in the book that letting go of things and deciding to go after what we want are the two toughest things to do. So the decision made by the brain is what decides whether we are going after what we want or just sacrificing the desire due to current circumstances. This decision making is not at all easy. On one side is the ever optimistic heart that says we must work no matter what, to accomplish what we desire for whilst on the other side is the logistics that show a completely improbable unclear path towards the same accomplishment. Which side does the brain take is an interesting yet a very difficult scenario for all of us at such instances.

 

The decision that shall churn out of all the mixed emotions and feelings will depend on our past experiences, intuitions, beliefs and principles of our life. We might just consider it as any other decision and move ahead but each of these decisions mould our attitude towards life. Hence it becomes of utmost importance to have made the right decision whether t0 go ahead despite all uncertainties and fears or to let go off the chance or the dream due to uncertainties and fears. You are always welcome to share your perceptions on

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Experience to empathize

In one of my previous blogs I had spoken about empathy. Empathy is a very important quality that one should have to understand others emotions and feelings. You can check more about its importance in the following link http://mohanbn.blogspot.in/2012/12/empathy-art-to-learn.html. However here I would like to touch upon the topic about how to develop the power of empathising with people.

 

Experience shall form the core of empathy. Unless you have experienced the situation what the other person is narrating, you can never empathize with the other person. In fact no two people shall undergo exactly the same process. So complete empathy can ever be achieved at all. But it is definitely true that all of us undergo similar situations in life if not the same exactly where in the emotions and feelings felt by us would match at least if not the situation. This is the required experience of emotions and feelings that can help us develop empathising power. Unless you haven't even experienced the emotions same as the other person in a similar situation, it shall be highly difficult for you to empatize with the other person's situation.

 

Empathy is an art to learn if you want to network with large number of people and work towards grand success. Then it becomes essential for you to get into someone else's shoes day in and day out to empathize with the other person. Hence it's important for you to explore various experiences so that you can instantly remove your shoes and slip into another person's shoes the moment s/he is narrating their story to you so that you can empathise in the best possible manner. I really empathize with the difficulty of writing a feedback with my reader as I have also been asked for feedback by many other authors. Still, I would invite my dear reader to post a comment about the blog on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Break your fear and love yourself

On february 4th,2013, I was glad to have been invited by VVN degree college for an inspirational talk to address close to 200 young ladies pursuing their graduation. The main convener for the event was Smt.Prasanna Udupikar who is a English lecturer in the same college. The talk was scheduled at 3pm but was delayed by thirty minutes as all the students had to come from their classes to the auditorium. All I knew when I entered the hall was that I was trusted with next 120 minutes to bring about a positive change in all these people.

 

The event kicked off with a wonderful introduction about me by madam. It was one of the best introductions that I had ever heard. Once I was given the microphone I made it a point to thank the almighty God, parents, teacher, friends and made the audience appreciate themselves with a round of applause. Then I discussed about what's happening in the current scenario as to how studies and marks are failing to motivate us to work hard. I also spoke about how visual and internet media are distracting us apart from providing us the necessary information. The fear of taking action and the problem of inferiority complex were addressed as well. I narrated the example of Lizzie Velasquez and the audience learnt a great lesson about how they should come out of inferiority complex and face the world.

 

Finally I taught them the mantra of "BREAK YOUR FEAR AND LOVE YOURSELF" by which one should be able to break any fear and try out the task at hand. Also not to forget that one should appreciate and love oneself instead of depending on anyone else for moral support. Hitesh.G who is pursuing his BBM also shared about his journey and a wonderful message that "IF YOU ARE NOT A GOOD LEADER THEN BE A GREAT FOLLOWER" following which Bharath.G.C sir introduced the audience to various platforms by which they can grow and the response of the students was just stupendous. These students, especially girls had stayed back for 2 hours after college hours and mam had to struggle to make them leave the auditorium. I hope this suffices to prove the worth of the talk. If you want to know more about such talks, message me on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Public Speaking Club Exhibition

It was yet one more wonderful day on February 2nd, 2013 when I witnesssed young kids of KLE Society's International School participate in "IU Public Speaking Club Exhibition". Students starting from the age of 7.5 years to 12 years participated in this wonderful exhibition to entertain the audience with their linguistic and speaking abilities. The entire event that happend for three hours encompassed three different activities to showcase different strengths of the students. I am really excited to share with you about each of them here.

The first activity was a public speaking competition for students from 2nd and 3rd std and the topic was 'My Dreams'. The reason this topic was given because today's children need to be made aware of their dreams as early as possible so that they don't end up in confusions later. Primary school kids shared that they had dreams of becoming doctor, engineer, IAS officer, police officer, architect and many more. It was really heart-touching to see each of these small eyes carrying big dreams.

Second activity was a debate between two teams of two students each studying in 3rd std. The topic given to them was whether homework was good or bad. This debate was the highlight of the entire show. Each team started arguing as to why their perspective towards homework was correct and tried to convince the opposite team agree to their ideology. There were many funny moments which the audience enjoyed thoroughly throughout the entire show. Finally I had to stop them else they would have continued to debate the whole day.

Third activity was a cabinet meeting of the Karnataka government body which included students participating from 5th and 6th std. 7 students assigned themselves the roles of Chief minister, agricultural and irrigation minister, sports minister, health minister, education minister, transport minister and home minister. These young kids really showed the way a board meeting should be conducted with their wonderful respect to each other and discussed about the pertinent issues of the society. This was the final showdown that the audience were really impressed with.

All these wouldn't have been possible without the support of Sujit Lalwani sir, Geethika Kharola mam, Bharath.G.C sir and Bharathi mam. Thanks to all the parents who enjoyed the entire show and a big thanks to all my lovely kids who made the show a grand success.  To know more about such sessions from IU(Inspiration Unlimited) please contact 9916034862.