Sometimes just a gesture is sufficient

Recently I was watching the interview of a very famous movie hero who had turned into a politician. He was offered a role in one of the big budget movies offlate. He couldn't accept it because of his political commitments. He stated that ot would be difficult for him

to be punctual for shootings and hence it would disturb the complete schedule of the movie shooting. At this point he mentioned that even if he doesn't give any appointments for any meetings, by the time he leaves his home after just saying 'Hello' to all those people who

would have come to see him, this itself would take a minimum of three hours. At this point more than the busy-ness of the actor cum politician I understood how important it is to wish people. All that people want is a small recognition through any type of a gesture.

'People are not difficult, they are just different'. This is one of the famous quotes of Er. Sujit Lalwani, a star international inspirational speaker. There is a desire in every human being to be considered as important. Unfortunately most people rely on others to fulfill this desire of their's. A man who is completely self-aware, knows his worth doesn't care about what others think about him but not all people on this planet are wise enough to have such wisdom. They need to be recognised is what they feel. In majority of the functions and public meetings you might have observed that it's almost next to impossible to talk to anyone in detail because there are just too many people seeking attention of the hosts. It is quite possible for the hosts to miss out on saying just a 'Hi' to few of the guests and in majority of such cases people come back home and start blaming that they shouldn't have even gone to the function. They blame that the hosts didn't have even the courtesy of saying 'Hi!' to the guests knowing that there were just too many people to wish. This eventually goes on to develop cold relationship between these set of people and they revert the same action of disrespecting when they meet the next time by not even wishing the other person that goes on to completely cut the relationship.

There are 700 crore plus people on this planet. We can be very sure that not all will be with us forever. Out of the even few of them who are with us there is no point in losing them on such simple stupid occasions of not wishing them either by ignorance or overlooking.

Make your best efforts to wish people whenever you come face to face with them because all that people wish is just a wish. I wish to receive your feedback on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Stress Pressure Discomfort

Well! this was a topic that I wanted to address from a very long time. Infact I myself have been through these situations many a times and have lost many battles to come out of the same. As experience grew and exposure increased I started using certain preached techniques and also discovered few on my own to combat these. In today's busy world wherein people are burdened with 'n' number of work and responsibilities it is quite natural for one to yield to situations of stress, pressure and discomfort. Be it a student or a working individual in any field, there are challenges everywhere that need to be faced and accomplished within predefined deadline with the expected quality. Unwanted restrictions are just making life more miserable for people. So what are the reasons for this and how do we deal with them is the content of the next part.

Information keeps increasing everyday. Restructuring of knowledge evolves continuously. Methods get finetuned and new developments are bound to occur in every phase of life. Unfortunately the human mind cannot update itself in comparison to the development happening around but in order to survive one is forced upon to improve on a daily basis. There's a famous quote that I had heard which goes like this "If you are not updated then you are outdated". Indeed the statement is very true. So this simple expectation of everyday growth is itself a big hurdle which is putting people under pressure. Evaluation techniques of one's skills and knowledge are also getting tougher day by day just to filter off the rest from the best. This heavy competition is putting tremendous pressure on people to extend their working hours to survive in the competition else they know that they will be washed out. While struggling to update and compete one is surrounded with lot of other restrictions which make life even more uncomfortable.

The very simple solution logically to deal with this but a bit challenging approach practically
is to first give time for yourself to talk with yourself. The worst thing that can happen to someone is that he/she might die and death is something that is bound to occur. When you're definite about the worst thing that can happen to you and have accepted it then anything else is just a passing phase of life for which you don't have to give away your life. Just tell yourself that you will give your best to accomplish everything that is possible and start listing down the tasks that your have to do. "Too many things undone on the mind is stress" - courtesy Er.Sujit Lalwani. Once you have listed down, chart out a rough plan of the approach that you're going to follow and the time you require to accomplish each task. This will clearly tell you if you can complete all of them within the prescribed deadline or not. Then you can reorder the priorities and probably extend the deadline as well as per the new plan to complete all the tasks. As soon as this plan is charted out and finalised you will be surely releived of all the pressure. Last but not the least important point is to then make sure that you enjoy while executing your plan and try to increase your efficiency in order to complete the tasks well before the deadline so that you have enough time for review as well. This has been the method that I have been applying and which has worked out really well for me.

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