The convincer's power

I have heard it many a times that there's your way, my way and the right way. You tend to hear such statements whenever there are arguments. Coming to arguments which flow to a proper logical end without either of the parties escaping, you can always notice that there is one side which has a strong convincer who has an answer for every argument of the opposition. This convincer has the ability to reverse the debate if he is made to team up with the oppostion side. This is the power of the convincer.

No matter how much ever logical reasoning exists, still it's the ability of the convincer that decides the detination of the debate. No matter whichever side the convincer is shifted to the debate tilts towards that end. In this diverse world with different cultures and different people, nothing is right while nothing is wrong. Some things are right according to some people while the same things are wrong according to some other set of people. No one really knows the real depth of good or bad. So as long as the powerful convincer is able to convince others to follow his path, they shall follow. Whoever has developed the courage, ability and urge to convince others to agree to his viewpoints always wins the debate just by the mere confidence more number of times than the rational reasoning.

 

This world needs a person who can rule over it. People are confused as to what is right and what is wrong. They need a leader who shall show them the right path but not all shall express this inner feeling of their's. So it's left upto each one of you to decide whether to take hold of the reigns of this world and drive it in the best direction or not. Really looking forward for your reviews on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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Be the mirror

"People are not difficult, people are just different" - This is one of the famous quotes by the serial entrepreneur Er.Sujit Lalwani. This statement is so true that we an apply it in our day to day life as we keep interacting with lot of people. Since man is a social being, he has to live in a society with the best interpersonal skills to achieve his objectives. People are different and as a result their opinions are different, their attitudes are different. Some might be in sync with your way of thinking while some might not be. If you are aiming to convince all by your point of view then its going to be absolutely impossible. You will have to do so in their own style. This is what I mean by 'be the mirror'.

Everything in this world has a meaning associated with it which is generic enough for everyone but people define their own definitions for different things as per their background, education, experience, exposure, attitude and other factors. Some of the unquantified words oftentimes take the definitions defined by individuals and when two such people argue about them there's a clash due to different perceptions as well as perception levels. As a result of these differences people with more authority will definitely try to dominate with their definitions. In such circumstances there is no point in arguing between two perceptions. Let's use the solution of mirror effect at this point. Just observe the way other person talks and figure out his/her prominent points used to confront any argument. This requires good observation and learning as well. Then apply the same method to your arguments and present it to the opposition. Its as simple as fighting with a person who is having a gun with a gun itself. There's no point in using a sword against the gun.

Every person has his own strong means of winning arguments and to prove his point just for the sake of ego. There's no point pointing out the ego because some cannot just live without it and even that pointing out will hurt their ego. Just behave the way they do in their own style in front of them. Showcase the exact reflection of the other person by being the mirror infront of him. They cannot face their own self when they are wrong and that will give them a chance to correct themselves and a chance for you to put across your points on the same bridge.

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