Daughters and dads; sons and moms

Before I begin, let me make it clear that I am not generalizing anything here. It's just that I am putting across my views regarding my observations of the world around me. (I feel this is a very nice diplomatic way to put across my point.) I have noticed it often that daughters are more close to their dads and sons are more close to their moms and it is vice-verse true as well. Dads' favourites are daughters while the moms' favourites are sons. I am sure that even you would have observed this phenomenon among your circle. As I am completely unaware about this topic, I wanted to write about it to know what I already know but am not aware about as recommended by Steven Pressfield.

Girls are curious to know what the guys talk about while guys are curious to know what the girls talk about. It's an inbuilt curiosity to know about the opposite sex among humans. Remember that curiosity always lies in the unknown. Until extinction of the homo-sapiens you can be sure that the females will always have things to discuss about which the men will never know but always would want to know. The same holds good vice-verse as well. There are certain topics which shall be discussed in a certain way among males that will never reach the females' ears though they want to hear. When it comes to the father-daughter or a mother-son relationship, the same thing holds good. Father being a male can have every idea possible as to how his son would talk, think, react, respond, plan, emote and act at what particular age and in which particular scenario. Similarly even the mom being a female can anticipate every step of her daughter on the lines of female mentality. Even though the same anticipation might not work out exactly still it's pre-decided in the mind of the parents and a feeling of known always prevails which doesn't ask for further interest in finding out the next step. However, when it comes to the criss-cross relationship between a dad and a daughter or a mom and a son, the male and the female mentalities cross paths. As a result both the parties are curious to understand the next step from both the ends.

This willingness to understand more about the other person is what brings relationship closer between people. Whenever a relationship is fostering patience and sympathy towards each other always accompany. As a result it gives a good ground for the relationship to get stronger and more often this happens between people of opposite sex. You might have observed as to how boys are more tolerant towards silly girls and girls are tolerant towards naughty boys. The desire to understand and attract the opposite sex is embedded in the DNA of animals cum humans by the grace of God which is quite difficult to change. Every girl expects her husband to be as protective and possessive of her as her dad and every guy expects his wife to be as caring and lovable as his mother. All these factors sum up together towards making daughters the favourites of their dads and the sons the favourites of their moms. You are totally free to comment about my opinion on
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Guidance for untreaded path

Christopher Columbus is one of the prominent examples who quite often took the untreaded path. He was an explorer who sailed across huge oceans to discover new landscapes. Probably no one had ever treaded the paths that he set upon. The reason he was the discoverer of many places on the world map was because he set out to take the path that's often forbidden by the ordinary with a vision to explore and know the world better. There would have been numerous people who would have advised Christopher before he set out for his journey. People would have definitely warned him about the high seas and storms, fierce winds, cunning pirates and lots more but the truth was that people had never explored the path that Christopher would be starting but still gave their blemished advices.

How is it possible for one to guide any person along lines which he/she himself has never travelled on before? Infact it is almost impossible to provide guidance along a path which one has never seen before. When one decides to take upon the challenge to walk the unknown path, immediately doubts, questions and fears start pouring on him/her from the surroundings. The worst part is that all these are thrown by those who actually don't have enough courage to take the same step and are under the shadow of 'Fear of Unknown'. People have got used to the natural flow of things in life. Something new or unknown or a change always frightens them. This has spread into the psychology of people so deep that any new act of expedition to explore the unknown is always considered as risky and dangerous. Still there are quite few examples of exceptional cases in this world wherein men were courageous enough to go beyond fears and take up the risk to conquer the darkness of unknown merely with their visions. Likes of Christopher Columbus were Steve Jobs, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Dhirubhai Ambani, J.K.Rowling and many more who took the offbeat path and beat the odds to materialise their dreams into reality.

When you have strong belief backed up with the right guidance of the mentor who knows the way often untraced by others, you can fearlessly move ahead. The most important factor that will determine your success will be the self-belief and self-motivation that you can restore in yourself time and again. Life is not meant to be glued on to the cushions of safety all the time, it's meant to be expanded and explored to unleash the limits of life and the strengths within. Listen to the right guidance from those who know the path and not from those who are afraid to see the new path. Life is once, live it to the fullest.

I am all set to take up one such unconventional path that my entire family hasn't set foot in till now. If you have similar story please share it on is.mohanbn@gmail.com
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