Daughters and dads; sons and moms

Before I begin, let me make it clear that I am not generalizing anything here. It's just that I am putting across my views regarding my observations of the world around me. (I feel this is a very nice diplomatic way to put across my point.) I have noticed it often that daughters are more close to their dads and sons are more close to their moms and it is vice-verse true as well. Dads' favourites are daughters while the moms' favourites are sons. I am sure that even you would have observed this phenomenon among your circle. As I am completely unaware about this topic, I wanted to write about it to know what I already know but am not aware about as recommended by Steven Pressfield.

Girls are curious to know what the guys talk about while guys are curious to know what the girls talk about. It's an inbuilt curiosity to know about the opposite sex among humans. Remember that curiosity always lies in the unknown. Until extinction of the homo-sapiens you can be sure that the females will always have things to discuss about which the men will never know but always would want to know. The same holds good vice-verse as well. There are certain topics which shall be discussed in a certain way among males that will never reach the females' ears though they want to hear. When it comes to the father-daughter or a mother-son relationship, the same thing holds good. Father being a male can have every idea possible as to how his son would talk, think, react, respond, plan, emote and act at what particular age and in which particular scenario. Similarly even the mom being a female can anticipate every step of her daughter on the lines of female mentality. Even though the same anticipation might not work out exactly still it's pre-decided in the mind of the parents and a feeling of known always prevails which doesn't ask for further interest in finding out the next step. However, when it comes to the criss-cross relationship between a dad and a daughter or a mom and a son, the male and the female mentalities cross paths. As a result both the parties are curious to understand the next step from both the ends.

This willingness to understand more about the other person is what brings relationship closer between people. Whenever a relationship is fostering patience and sympathy towards each other always accompany. As a result it gives a good ground for the relationship to get stronger and more often this happens between people of opposite sex. You might have observed as to how boys are more tolerant towards silly girls and girls are tolerant towards naughty boys. The desire to understand and attract the opposite sex is embedded in the DNA of animals cum humans by the grace of God which is quite difficult to change. Every girl expects her husband to be as protective and possessive of her as her dad and every guy expects his wife to be as caring and lovable as his mother. All these factors sum up together towards making daughters the favourites of their dads and the sons the favourites of their moms. You are totally free to comment about my opinion on
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Ladies! Learnt a lot from you

This blog is a complete dedication to all those beautiful girls, ladies and women who have made this earth a better place to live in. Before starting off with this post my mind was in a dilemma whether to take up this topic or not. I was quite unsure about my preparation on writing this blog. Also there was a small inhibition that friends might tease reading the title itself but then I thought to myself that this topic has been running on the mind quite often. Either today or some other day I will have to put it into words and I chose TODAY itself because I remembered that as soon as I woke up today the first face I saw was that of my mother's. Everyone of us have been lucky enough to see unknown face of God in our mother's heart. Neither me nor anyone in this world can prove if any love is bigger than the love of a mother for her children. Well! God didn't stop at one. He knew that there was a requirement of lot more of these fabulous females to look after these menacing males. So He also blessed us with sisters, cousins, aunts, grandmothers and friends who are girls(I know I couldn't have used the short form here because you might just take me wrong).

I think while God designed men, He introduced lot of functionalities that they could perform various amount of vareity of functions but didn't give much importance to UI(User Interface). As a reason though lots get done inside the output shows to be very plain like the initially designed operating systems of the world. If you are not a techie I would make this simple saying that men are really low on expressing themselves and their emotions. Anyways they are still better than a stone. But later God realised the error in the early design and made sure that the best form of display with all the best functionalities was introduced while creating females like that of Samsung Galaxy S3 which has the tagline - "Designed for humans". I think females were created with a tagline - "Designed for mans"(I apologise for the spelling mistake). Trust me girls! We need you. Men by themselves are not capable enough to extract their full potential. We need you to be not just behind us but along with us because you are the powerhouse of inspiration. Men can create anything but women will be the ones who will fill life into the creation.

Like most men even I grew up from being a boy into a man. In the process I was forced to think that I was no more a small kid but a grown up who should always be seriously focused on work and work more on logic than feelings. Thanks to the Almighty that this misconception was broken soon. I must confess here that when I used to see girls around who were grown up still behaving as kids I used to get irritated. I would take it as rather childish than childlike. But as time progressed when I saw the same girls taking up serious decisions of life for themselves and for their families I had to admit that I was a fool to think they were kiddish. They had really grown far more than I had imagined. That was the time when I learnt that you don't have to be really serious all the time just because you are no more a teenager. No one on this earth has ever defined how a child should behave and how an adult should behave. Its all influenced by the society we live in. Its time to change guys. In childhood we were lot more happy because we enjoyed every small thing of life. We didn't need a Samsung Galaxy S3 alone to be happy. We could be happy with just a chocolate a day. Might be we guys forgot but thanks to these marvellous ladies who never let go off the child within them.

Ladies are special. They get happy when you buy them a rose a day rather than a rose garden after ten years. They value precious moments of life like the first time you met them, the first time you called them, the first time you went out for a movie, the first gift you presented them etc. We guys are sometimes really low on memory(manufacturing defect) that we forget these precious moments but remember the score of Sachin in Sharjah Cup. Ladies know the right time for fun and the right time to be serious. Your spouse or girlfriend would enjoy the bike ride with you more than a ride in Mercedes Benz driven by a driver just because you bought it to enhance your prestige in the soceity. They would love to get wished from you first than anyone else on their birthday. I used to think that whistling was a bad manner but offlate realised that girls enjoyed it when done in the right manner. They love to get impressed, impress them you boys.

Well before I conclude I would like to thank every woman on this earth for having been such a strong support for us. Might be if not for Smt. Sudha Murthy we would have never seen Infosys or Sri. NarayanMurthy. If not for our mothers we would have never been the sane guys that we are today. As the old adage says home is the first school and mother is the first teacher, indeed ladies are the strongest support to hold families together. Thank you once again ladies! I have really learnt a lot from you.

Its easier to find out the footsteps of fish in water than to understand whats going on in a girl's heart. Well! guys haven't grown to that level still. Keep teaching us ladies. Indeed I have learnt a lot from you.

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