Line by Line

Due to bad food in the evening today, I had a kind of bad feeling in my gut because of which I couldn't even workout in the gym in the late evening. So, came back home after some 10 minutes of cardio and saw my brother and cousin playing carrom. After a long time even I felt like getting my fingers tested at carrom and joined the game. Glad that the opponents were far less experienced compared to my gap in practice, I won both the games that we played. After the game, I went along with my cousin to drop her to her home and on the way was enquiring about her studies. She mentioned something like 'I don't understand certain stuff while I study'. This dragged my attention and I offered to clarify some of her confusions.

 

As we entered my cousin's house, she took out her Physics text book and opened a random chapter which had escaped her understanding. We started reading this new chapter. We took up the first paragraph of introduction and I read a line and asked her to repeat and then explain it to me in simple words in her mother tongue. I could find that it was difficult for my cousin to understand even the first paragraph of introduction of a chapter. Only when we read it line by line and I made her translate each line into her mother tongue and explain it to me was she able to get the meaning and complete understanding of the entire paragraph. All the time before when she had studied these chapters, she had missed this line by line approach. She had tried to scan through the paragraph and understand the concept which always deceived her understanding. Once I taught her this simple algorithm of understanding line by line which required more time and patience she could appreciate its simplicity because no more understanding could evade from her.

 

Not just studies, be it anything in life each one of them expects detail level attention for deeper and better understanding. Every situation demands momentwise reading to understand the depth of it. Every relationship requires understanding of every emotion of the people to foster better relationship. Recently I read a statement which read 'God lies in the details' which is absolutely true. One who pays attention to details can never miss out on a chance to succeed. I appreciate every feedback of yours on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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God-fearing or good-fearing

'He was a very God-fearing man' is a sentence that I have read a couple of times in books. This aims to convey the message that the person was one who followed rituals for God very strictly and consistently. I personally haven't seen God live. I have seen the photos as many of you would have. I believe that, since God is the creator of the world, he shall protect as well. Then why should we be afraid of Him who is on our side to protect us?

 

Some of them may argue saying that one cannot do work that's against God. Well! I don't expect anyone would get ready to fight against God. I have observed that parents/elders warn children saying that if they don't perform the rituals or not perform rituals properly then God shall punish them. If they don't go to temples God shall punish them. These kinds of things breed in fear in children about God. Then they start going to temples and following rituals just out of fear rather than worship. It is as if people are paying bribes by visiting temples and performing rituals just to safeguard themselves from the anger of God. Can we call this real worship? Is God someone who will harm us just because we didn't follow the rituals? If someone says following rituals in spite of you not having your heart/mind/soul in it is real worship then I don't understand if this irritation-filled worship really reaches God. I believe that the relationship between God and man should be just like that between two best friends with no rules but just values. A person should not be afraid of God. S/He should be able to feel that God is with him/her all the time and listening.

 

People need not have to avoid doing things fearing God. People need to be afraid of doing things against good for others. If any act of a person harms or affects another human in a negative way and with the same negative intention then that is bad and such an act must be avoided by being good-fearing. Let's make friends with God and good. Please feel free to share your feedback on

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I want to know you better

"A gossip is one who talks to you about others ; a bore is one who talks to you about himself ; and a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself "~LK - This was the fantastic quote that I read this morning on Amitabh Bachchan sir's facebook page. It just got me to write this blog. Most of the times I either convey my experience or a learning from one of my daily incidents in my blogs. Today I am writing this blog to know more about my lovely readers and to express what I presume to know about my dear readers. Amigos! This blog is dedicated to each one of you out there who give precious moments of your daily time in reading my blog.

On a primary assumption, I think that you are one of those special people who love to read and hence you take out few minutes of your day to read my blog. On a secondary note, you are an optimistic person who believes in learning from others and sharing the experiences of others and hence you visit my blog. You might be one of those who has been in contact with me from a long time and might even have been a part of my team in any of our fabulous works. You might be one of those who appreciates my style of writing or the messages that I convey. You are one of those few precious souls out there in the world who wants to encourage a budding writer like me. I can clearly understand and realise that you are the one who cares about me and hence regularly visits my blog to wish me continue better or correct me if I am wrong somewhere. You are another important creation of God on this earth who wants to get inspired and want to inspire the inspiring ones with your wonderful support, love and prayers. I just feel you are one of those best hearty friends of mine out there with whom I might not have a chance to talk or interact on a day to day basis but are definitely present to share my emotions and feelings which I might not have shared even with the people around me all through the day.

I just can't express in finite words as to how much I owe to each one of you. Probably the only way I think that I can live upto your expectations and reciprocate the love that you have showered on me is by being consistent with my blogs on a daily basis and imparting more and more meaningful messages. I thank each one of my dear readers from the bottom of my heart and have a dream to meet, interact and know much more about you under one roof very soon. Love you all amigos!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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When it hurts, it's EGO

EGO means 'Eliminating Growing Opportunities'. We are born as human beings and probably we are the only set of species who can be hurt even without touching us. Words are the most powerful weapons than even bazookas sometimes. Probably the mythological stories which spoke of shaapas, by which any person could make the other person suffer just by uttering few words are the real proofs of the power that words have in them. Every weapon has a destination to destroy. Ego is the destination that we build in ourselves as we grow up to destroy our very own self-being.

No doubt that ego is the negative emotion that we have built in ourselves. Please don't confuse self-esteem with ego which most of them do when they say "I don't have ego but I cannot give up my self-esteem". Friends! the word 'self-esteem' in itself has the word 'self' which means it's applicable for the self only. When you respect yourself and you maintain your integrity to keep up to the respect in your own eyes for youself then you have your self-esteem guarded very well and no one can even touch it to disturb it. The moment you are hurt by a simple comment or tease or act of someone else towards you, then alarm yourself that it was not your self-esteem which got hurt but it was your ego. When you are right in your own eyes, self-esteem can't be disturbed at all but when you feel bad that other person doesn't value you as you value yourself then it's the ego that gets hurt and makes you feel bad.

I have come across a lot of irrelevant comments and ridicules about myself in the past and as experience grew I could only realise that these were logically irrelevant and I was still feeling bad about them because I had set my expectations as to how people should respect me. This was the wall of ego that I had built in myself which I completely shattered as time passed by to make sure that the destination to destroy itself didn't exist anymore. Since then any hard words just pass through my ears without even entering my heart. Destroy the wall of ego in the self because no weapon is thrown when there is no target. I don't mind asking my dear readers for feedback again and again as there is no ego to get hurt if I don't get any on www.facebook.com/ismohanbn

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