We are all human beings

At the end of the day we are not Gods; not even devils. We are human beings. There is loads of stuff that shall shut their doors on our faces. There is a mighty chance of things going wrong when you just expected them to go right exactly how you planned. No wonder such backfiring always change our moods and emotions. Things that don't work out carry the power to switch us off for some moments. All of a sudden all the energy feels as if it's drained out. The motivation to go ahead no more lingers on the mind. All these are very much natural because we are human beings. Just like how we can go high and laugh rolling on floor the opposite also holds good. These situations shouldn't make us blame ourselves.

Let's go back to the time when we were those kids who cared a least about what the world around us was doing. All that we were focused on was our games, our food and our tiny, little homework. We didn't bother what others thought about our colour or clothes. When someone disappointed us or fought with us, we definitely felt bad and cried in the arms of our parents. But after some time we got back to our normal routine of playing and enjoying childhood. None of the pressures of the universe could levy their burden on our shoulders. We could run, fall, jump, hide, sleep and do every other thing that was possible without worrying about what happened just an hour ago. Feelings are an intricate part of human beings. Sometimes they are good; sometimes they go down to being bad also. We must accept this truth of highs and lows of life and emotions. As we grow older people teach and train us to be ever-happy which is a very hypothetical and ideal situation to ever happen on this planet in our lives. It's very easy for someone to say to you to be happy when you are sad just like how it's easy for you to do the same to someone else. But changing the emotion is not so easy at one switch. It shall take its time. Until then, we must agree to the fact that we are prone to such mood swings. If the emotion can swing from good to sad then it can swing back from bad to good also. There lies the hope for every one of us. We can get back to our energetic states also, not just lose them.

Life is there to offer all kinds of challenges to us. It wants us to go through all kinds of emotions. It wants us to experience all kinds of scenarios. As you expect more from life it only gives back more to you. All you need to do is to enjoy this wonderful ride called as life. We cannot be perfect all the time. Perfection is an illusion. We must agree to the fact that we can also make errors and be ready to correct them. If we act the same manner all the time then we won't remain as humans; we turn into stones which remain the same no matter which situation they are in. The essence of life is change. It can be change in our emotions or thoughts. It can be a change in our perceptions or feelings. We are all humans ultimately.

Don’t waste time; don’t wait time

Time is one of the most precious treasures of life that’s blessed upon every human being without any partiality. Irrespective of caste or creed, colour or décor, rich or poor, ugly or beautiful, each and every one is gifted with 24 solid hours of time every day. It’s up to us as to how we make use of these 1440 minutes every day. Wasting time is like wasting away our life itself. Hence we should try our best to utilize our time in the most efficient time. There are many articles online that can teach us as to how we must not waste our free time and what all we can do during that time to develop ourselves. In this write-up I would like to share about how we waste time in the name of waiting for someone or something.

When we have an appointment with a doctor we go to the clinic and see a huge queue waiting for the same. We end up sitting on one of those benches either dozing off in the same place or listening to the music being played or put on our earphones and listen to songs from our ipod or go through the magazines/newspapers kept for engaging the waiting patients. At the max, we try to communicate with the other patients as to what are their ailments, what all did they do before coming to the doctor, judgment on whether the doctor is good or not and other past health issues of families. Chatting at least makes us feel that we are networking and utilizing our time. Similar things can be observed in bus stands where people are waiting for the buses for unending amount of time some times. We plan get-togethers with our friends and we keep waiting for some of those laggards. While we are waiting for people we just end up wasting our own time. This time waste is at least clearly visible if we can use our brain a bit. Think about those situations when you postponed some of your action plans because you were waiting for some decisions by people, for some rule to change in the management, for some person to sign your document or so on. We ended up waiting for something to happen and eventually all our results got delayed.

Waiting is literally wastage of time folks! Unfortunately not every time can we anticipate whether we will have to wait or not. Many of the times we cannot even assume for how much of time we will have to wait. Precaution is better than cure. So, we must take simple steps that can accommodate the time of waiting and in turn help us utilize the same time. One of the simplest ways is by carrying a book to study wherever you are going. You would have chosen a book which you would have studied if you were at home for sure. So your waiting time becomes your study time. Carrying a simple book in which you can write can help you revise the stuff that you have studied earlier by writing while you are waiting. It might serve as your planning record for your further action plans. Being in the technological age, our smartphones can serve the same purpose. But they might also provide multiple diversions at the same time. If you are clear with your to-do list, then definitely your smartphone itself can be your notebook.

It’s up to you as to how you will convert your waiting time into efficient time. Don’t spend time in waiting; invest it in using the same for some creative purpose. When what we want to do in our day to day life is very clear we will pick up every chance to utilize every minute of the day in the best way possible. It’s your time and your life at the end of the day. No matter how much you blame on any person or situation, who or which made you wait you cannot get back the time that’s lost in waiting. Hence it’s your freedom and duty to take care of your treasure of life named TIME.

Lessons from life form life

Life is filled with series of episodes where every episode has one or the other lesson to teach us. It's upto us whether we take those lessons or not but certain incidents are formed so perfectly that we derive philosophies out of them for our future. We frame rules based on these experiences and start applying the same rule for future experiences of our life. This is what I mean when I say 'lessons from life form life'. When two different people undergo the same experience their derivation of a philosophy out of the same kind of experience can be totally different. This will differ based on the intellect of the two people, their attitude, previous encounters with them, the family and surroundings around them during their upbringing and lot of other factors. Hence it is quite possible that these two people frame different kinds of philosophies out of the same experience and follow it in future. However a question arises as to which of these philosophies is right.

No philosophy is right, no philosophy is wrong. Everyone has the absolute right to define his/her own definitions for different feelings, emotions and similary experiences and that is the right which is often exercised to the fullest. Some might agree with the philosophies that you have formed while some might not. Similarly you might agree with someone's philosophies but not with those of the others. Though we know that the philosophies and lessons formed out of life by different people are different still their are some common philosphies that have been concluded by masses and have a global acceptance. These are the kind of lessons and philosophies that enter great books, your text books and the constitutions. Initially in our childhood we set one particular philosphy, the moment there is a situation where this doesn't work we frame a new modified version of the philosphy. With one more new experience where even this fails again we come up with the second version of it. This process continues in everyone's life as encounters with different people and different situations keep increasing. Let me tell you friends that this is a never ending process.

I would like to convey an important philosophy that I came up with which is to keep learning from everyone's philosophies. Learn all but apply the one that suits a situation. There is no point in debating or arguing as to whose philosophy is good or whose is bad. It might just end up in wasted efforts, energy and time. Listen to perceptions of different people and you will be easily able to find out the expertise level that the other person has in comparison with that of yours based on the latest modified version of his/her philosophy.

Proabably I have conveyed the philosophy or lesson that I have learned from my life with the experiences that I have had. Do feel free to share yours on is.mohanbn@gmail.com

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